Right about now, I’m sure you’re thinking “what the heck does my business
have to do with Lisa’s cheating ex-boyfriend”?
Oh, but it has everything to do with him.
I’ll tell you why…
When I was in my mid-twenties, I made a decision to give a chance
to a man that my intuition had always been a “no” to.
I heard rumors that he had a major thing for me for 2 years.
Still, I had always rebuffed his pointed looks and his attempts to flirt
with me when I was out with friends and ran into him, because the idea
of dating him had never really entered my mind.
For some reason, 2 years later, I decided to ignore my inner guidance and
give him a chance and I began to date him.
About 6 months into the relationship, not only was he emotionally abusive
to me on a regular basis, but he also cheated on me.
He chose to never tell me.
And I didn’t find out about this indiscretion until a year later.
And I only found out because he left his emails open on my computer,
and forgot to close out a long email from the woman he had cheated
on me with, who was furious with him for how he treated her.
(I didn’t blame her, honestly!)
Now, I had never been cheated on–I had always dated some amazing,
open-hearted men–I had been lucky up until that point!
I remember when I found out, I felt like the ground fell out from underneath me.
Still, I went against my better judgment (once again) and gave him a second chance.
(this is what happens when you get wrapped up in an unhealthy relationship)
Another year went by.
He ended up moving in to my apartment for a few months–I wanted to help him out
while he searched for his own job and apartment. But 6 months went by, I was
suddenly paying for almost everything and he still had no job or apartment
to speak of.
Then one day, he left his cell phone at my house and he called me from
another phone, asking me to check his voicemails for an important message
about a job he had recently gotten as a teacher.
When I went into his voicemail to retrieve the information from the message
for him, I stumbled upon the wrong voicemail and found out that he was
having an affair with one of his students!
Cheating on me, once again. Yup.
At that point, I had been doing a lot of personal development work and knew that I
had to value myself enough to end the relationship and chalk it up to a lesson learned.
Shortly after that, I met the next person I would date for 6 years.
I remember in the beginning of dating this new person, I could feel all of
my trust issues wanting to come up and take over.
What if this new person cheated on me?
Could I trust them when they were talking with their female friend on the phone?
What if this happened to me all over again?
If I had picked this deadbeat boyfriend before, could that mean my “partner picker”
was off and that I had picked another cheater again?
How could I be sure that I wouldn’t be cheated on again?
But I also realized that if I chose to bring my old experiences from that
bad relationship into the new one…
I would be miserable, paranoid and suffering in the new relationship
all the time and would never get to truly enjoy it and experience it fully.
I would create a bad experience for my new partner and never give the
relationship a chance to succeed because I’d be projecting all my old fears
from previous bad experiences onto the new relationship.
So in that moment I decided I wanted to choose to feel good.
I told myself, I am NOT bringing my baggage from the last relationship
into this new one. I refuse to be jealous.
It was as simple as making the choice to trust.
And I did.
And guess what happened?
My new partner was loyal and totally different than my cheating ex.
I got to enjoy that relationship fully.
It was one of the relationships where I grew the most as a person.
And even though it ended 6 years later, we amicably parted ways
and still to this day remain very close friends with a lot of love for each other.
I never would have grown and had the experiences I had in that relationship
had I brought in the baggage from the old one into it.
And I’m telling you this story because there are definite correlations
between my story about my cheating ex-boyfriend and the success
of your business.
As I’m currently talking with and enrolling people who applied for the
Rise Mastermind, sometimes they share a fear with me…
And it’s a fear that I have found to be pretty common in many change-makers
who are ready to play a bigger game and who have invested in their businesses
before through other programs or products.
Even though they feel highly called to join RISE, they tell me
they had coaching before or did a program already and they had
a bad experience…or they didn’t end up DOING anything with the
information they invested in and they’re still stuck where they were before.
They are afraid to leap into what their heart is telling them to do,
because they keep being afraid that what happened in the past,
will happen again.
Can they trust themselves to finally do the work?
Can they be sure that this time things will finally be different?
They bring all the old “baggage” of their old experiences and project it
into the new experiences they are trying to have.
And when they do that, they become too afraid to take the leap,
and never give themselves the chance to truly flourish and go for their dreams,
because they are still stuck in the experiences of the past.
My love, I’m here to tell you that this is a hidden form of self sabotage.
Because what ends up happening is that you project into the future your fear
that you might have that bad experience again.
And you are a powerful creator–so by allowing those fears to rule your
decision-making abilities you actually end up creating a negative experience
for yourself in the future before it has even happened.
You will literally create a bad experience once again, no matter
how hard that program or coach tries to make it a good experience for you.
If your attention is on the fear of repeating a bad mistake again, then
that is what you will create.
And I don’t want you to keep doing that to yourself, because I want
you to be able to say yes to experiences that could be great for you,
whatever those experiences might be. (not just my programs)
So here’s the deal:
Next time you feel called to do something, join something or work with
someone, think of my cheating ex-boyfriend story and the decision I
made to NOT bring that baggage into the relationship after that.
Don’t bring your past baggage into your future business decisions.
It will weigh you down.
And you’ll never get to truly fly on your journey forward into the
life and business you really want to create.
In fact, it will probably weigh you down so much that you’ll never
get off the ground.
So here’s the deal–if you’ve been sitting on the fence about applying
for the Rise Mastermind because you’re afraid that it will be just like a
bad experience you had in the past, or you’re afraid you won’t do the work,
like you didn’t last time…
I invite you to feel into your heart and ask it what it wants.
What is your Soul called to do?
If you’re ready to create a positive experience for yourself, where you’ll
have an award-winning, master coach & Seer (that’s me!) fiercely dedicated to
your success, a group of amazing people who are cheering you on and loving
accountability so that you keep your commitments to yourself…
We’ve had more applications than available spots now and at the rate
that people are enrolling, I think we’ll be sold out in a week.
The application deadline is February 8th at 5pm EST.
Choose to trust.
Choose your experience and it will be just as you chose it to be.
You are the creator of your life.
In the comments below, I’d love to hear what your top takeaway from this is.
It always helps me to know how these things are landing with you!
ps: are you coming to my free Live Seer Call on Monday at 8pm EST?
You will get LIVE on the spot intuitive seeing from me about anything you need
help with right now in your business and I will be doing a Seer Transmission based
on all the downloads I’ve been getting for us all as we step into our next level this year.
The downloads have been big and I have some very important intuitive messages
for you on how to get ahead with your business this year and build what you desire to build–but you have to be there live to get the transmission (there is no recording!) and to win a 5 minute mini Seer Session (normally Seer sessions with me are $997).