I work with people who know that they’re supposed to be making a big contribution but for reasons they can’t quite pin down, they’re just not doing it. I help to light that inner spark that sets their revolution in motion.


You deserve to be fully met.

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There I was, on the phone with my friend Dyana a few months ago,
talking about an old flame I had recently reconnected with.

I had exchanged a few emails with him and I had been the last one to write,
but it had been well over a week since I had heard back.

As she listened to me ramble on about the variety of reasons for his lack of
response, all the excuses I was providing for his disappointing lack of engagement,
her words cut through the silence spaces in between the words like a sword.

Cleanly, efficiently and fiercely loving, as truth often does.

“Bottom line, he’s not meeting you where you are ready to be met right now.
He’s not showing up like you are and frankly, you deserve more than that.”

I let the words hang in the air for a moment. And then they began to reverberate down
through the gauzy layers of my mind, through the soft tissues in my body and finally
landed in my very cells, where they lit up bright and golden, unleashing light everywhere
in my body.

Truth, when it resonates, needs no words.
It just is.
And this golden beam of my friend’s deep seeing had just pierced through a blindness
that I didn’t even know that I had.

I had never thought of viewing my relationships through that lens.
The concept of “being fully met”.

We’ve all learned and applied the concepts of cutting toxic people out of our
lives, setting healthy boundaries and surrounding ourselves with people who
truly want the best for us.

But through the lens of making sure that we’re being fully met, we gain much
more subtle insight into what things in our lives are truly energizing us and what
is actually silently draining us. Let me explain…

In 2013 my business hit its first multi-six figures. Everything was gaining
momentum and things were going great, but I noticed towards the end of the
year, I started to feel burned out.

At first I assumed it was a sign that I really needed a business model change.
My 1:1 coaching practice was maxed out, everything was selling out and I had
just launched my first digital program, Impact™ to roaring success. So I made
the changes I thought would bring me my energy back.

But by the end of 2014, I was shocked to find I was feeling more burned out
than the year before. It didn’t make any sense—I had made the business model
changes and I had a lot more space in my schedule.

After my conversation with Dyana that fateful day, I realized in a flash that the
problem wasn’t my schedule. The problem was being fully energetically met by
the structures, people and environments I was exposing myself to.

Being fully met means the energy you are putting out there, is coming
back to you. Being met is a constant loop of nurturing energy.

These are the basic laws of entropy in our universe.
Think of what happens when you put your hand up to a cold window pane.
When two objects of different temperatures touch, energy flows between the
two objects until both objects become the same temperature.

Energy seeks balance.

When you’re not being met by the same amount energy that flows out of you, you begin
to develop power leaks. Energy is flowing out, but an equal amount of energy is not
flowing back in.

Spring enough power leaks and energetic burnout occurs.

So many change-makers come to work with me because they are burned out.
So many clients come to work with and tell me “I feel like I am doing everything by
myself and I just want to feel a hand on my back holding space for me. I feel like
I’m holding everything and everyone and no one is holding me”.

If you’re feeling this way—consider asking yourself are the people, structures,
relationships & systems in my life set up in such a way that they can meet me
with the same force of energy with which I am meeting them?”

When you’re fully met in your relationships, you walk away feeling energized and
nourished by your interactions.

When you’re fully met by your business model, you’re being supported by it
instead of being a slave to it.

When you’re fully met by the people you’re working with, you could spend 4
hours talking to your client, several times a week and never feel drained.

When you’re fully met by your team, everyone is playing to their excellence,
as passionate about your vision as you are and you’re not constantly having to
pull people up or micro-manage them.

When I asked every area of my life this question, “am I being fully met?” after my
conversation with Dyana, I was surprised to discover that I had subtle power leaks
all over my life.

So, out went the relationships with people I was constantly giving advice to but
that never had the capability to support me.
In came relationships with people who met me with the same level of devotion
and uplifting energetic frequency.

Out went relationships with friends who were constantly triggered by my success.
Out went keeping myself small in subtle little ways so that I wouldn’t upset them.
In came relationships with people who were as happy for my success as they
would be for their own.

Out went the team members who weren’t pulling their weight, weren’t committed
fully to the company vision or who required vast amounts of energy from me to
manage their volatile emotions.

Instead, I hired a new team that wanted to meet me in the zone of excellence,
instead of the zone of mediocrity. As a result, I started waking up really excited to
log on and communicate with them on our latest projects and for the first time in
the 5 years I’ve been running my business, I felt the support and motivation from
my team that I had always wanted.

Out went the clients who never fully showed up to their commitments, didn’t
participate in their transformation or expected me to give them all the answers.
In came a new, bold policy where I tell all potential clients that I only work with
people who are all in for truly co-creating their transformation, while valuing
personal responsibility.

And yes…out went my communications with that guy.
I send him lots of love and he’s a lovely person, but Dyana was right—wherever
he is in his life right now, he is simply not ready to meet me where I desire to be met.
And that’s okay.

You don’t have to be bitter about people not meeting you where you’re ready to be met.
Everyone has a right to their process and sometimes, people just aren’t there yet.

This is not about having a tit-for-tat mentality or keeping track of what people are
doing for you. All relationships have ebbs and flows, where one person is giving
more than the other for periods of time and vice versa.

What you do have control over is how you set up your world so that you’re fully met.

What you do have control over is sealing up your power leaks by cutting the chords
to anything that is not meeting you with the full force you put out into the Universe.

You know what happens when you do this?

Your burnout ends.

Mine did. As soon as I cut the chords on those relationships where I was doing
all the mentoring and supporting, I suddenly felt like my relationships with the
people who DO meet me fully, deepened. I felt more supported than I ever have.

As soon as I got rid of the team members who were not on board for excellence,
caring about my wellbeing or committed to the vision of the company, I felt a huge
energetic boulder lift from my shoulders and years of my leaked energy came
back to me.

As soon as I got rid of the clients who did not care to show up for themselves as
fully as I was showing up for them, I got a rush of incredible, motivated clients
that I was excited to support.

In the end, it’s you who determines whether or not you’re going to continue
to allow the power leaks in your life to drain you.

It’s you who says “enough is enough” and cuts the cords that are leaking your
vital life force energy all over the place and preventing you from unleashing your
light in the world.

Because you were meant to shine.

And you deserve to be fully met.

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So tell me in the comments below what chords you’re cutting this week to get
your power & energy back? And if you have a friend who could greatly use
some help with their power leaks, make sure you share this with them.

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The Gift of Being Invisible

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It crept up on me slowly at first. Like a slow-moving, grey cloud carrying its own atmospheric pressure ecosystem.

I had just come out of a 6 year relationship that blew my whole world open in the ways my world needed to be blown open and had blessed me with such powerful growth, in that way that only relationships can do.

For a month after the breakup, I felt as we all feel when we come out of a relationship…

After the sadness subsides and the mental stories that gloomily foretell the possibility of being alone forever begin to fade away, that rush comes.

You know the rush I’m talking about.

That true taste of pure, unadulterated freedom beaming it’s way out of your core and connecting you to all of life. That kind of freedom as all the parts of you that were wrapped up in the other person begin to come back to you.

The relationship had started at the age of 28 and ended when I was 33. I had been out of the dating game for what seemed like eons and as I usually do, the minute I had entered into my relationship, I had put far from my mind the possibility of being with anyone else forever.

So, getting back in the game felt like stepping into an alien world. So much had happened in those 6 years, externally and internally. I was a different person and the world was different.
And the way we date at 28 is very different than the way we date at 33.

Nevertheless, I assumed things would be as they always had been. I’d meet several eligible suitors, I’d have a few of them interested and I would fall in love again, as I had always done my entire life.

Man, was my ego in for a rude awakening.

At first it seemed like things would go as they always had gone.
I got a few interested suitors, some flirtations as delicious as a light chocolate soufflé
and some that were the wrong choice off the menu, to put it delicately.

And then I became invisible.

My entire life I had been used to being that woman. The one that enters a room and 5
out of 6 men turn their heads at. The one that easily makes instant friends. The one
that is always liked. The one everyone wants to know. The desired one. The special one. The intelligent one. The charismatic one.

Now before you think I’m some vain, privileged bee-otch who has no idea what it’s
like in “the real world”–believe me, I have had my fair share of rejections and heartbreaks. Plenty of people have not wanted to be my friend and plenty have just plain not liked me.

And I am by no means the most beautiful or amazing woman in the room everywhere I go, nor have I ever thought that of myself. But what I did always have was the ability to flip a switch in a room full of people and attract the people into my life that I desired to attract: business relationships, suitors or friends.

“Skunk medicine”, as one of my animal-totem-loving friends affectionately dubbed it when she saw it in action. The power to strongly attract or repel that which I wanted at any moment.

And then I lost that power. The switch broke.

Slowly I began to notice that I could walk in crowds and crowds of people and not a single person would look into my eyes or notice me. Men stopped asking me out. In fact, not a single man asked me out or expressed romantic interest in me in two years.

I inexplicably gained 40 pounds, even though I was eating the same healthy way I had
always eaten. I started to feel incredibly unattractive. My healthy self-esteem got a new internal companion–a sullen woman that thought my body was disgusting and repulsive to others.

I began to compare myself to every woman in the room and find all the reasons
why she was more beautiful internally and externally than me, more deserving of
love, more intelligent, more interesting and more sparkly. They all seemed to have that
“glow” that I was missing. I was the dull, dark thing gathering dust under the bed, where
most seldom want to look.

In conversations, I had been used to people always wanting to know what I had to say
and that was no longer the case. I have lost count of the amount of times over the last
two years when I was out to dinner or at an event where one question was asked of
everyone present and I was accidentally skipped over every. single. time.

Invisible.

I started to lose my voice in the world. In large gatherings, every time I spoke, my voice
was drowned out by other voices in the conversation or no one would respond and the topic of the conversation would change, without any indication that I had just spoken. No one asked me questions about myself anymore or seemed to want to get to know me–the person next to them at the dinner table–even though I attempted always to ask them questions and create connection.

My social media account, on which I had always been visible and outspoken, lost its
power of exposure. I went from having a highly engaged audience, commenting on my
posts and sharing them, to days where I poured my heart out and not a single person liked it or commented on it. I lost a lot of business when my Facebook profile became inexplicably invisible to most of my audience after the algorithm changes took effect.

To say this was an initiation for my ego is putting it lightly.

When I could no longer stand it, I visited a powerful astrologer to find out what the heck was happening to me. I had never felt so alone and depressed.

I felt like there was a gray cloud over my head, following me everywhere.

He took one look at my chart and said, in his rough, almost-Scottish-sounding, English
accent “you’ve got Saturn on your ascendant, darling”.

That moment and his subsequent explanation of what that meant, changed
everything for me.

Let me tell you a little bit about Saturn. He ain’t pretty and he ain’t the life of the party.

While other planets are the joyous, happy-go-lucky planets that bring good times with them everywhere they go, Saturn is that serious looking, stern looking grandfather in the corner, looking right through you and all of your bullshit.

Saturn is the speaker of Truth. He doesn’t regale you with compliments and ego-soothers.
He doesn’t coddle you or tell a joke to break the ice when things get a little too deep or serious for comfort. He pulls you into depth, unashamedly. He doesn’t give a fuck about social conventions.

Saturn stands there, relentlessly holding up a mirror to all of the things inside of you that you have not wanted to see about yourself. All of the ways you BS yourself, all of the ways you need external validation to define who you are, all of the false labels you give yourself to avoid seeing your real Self.

It’s like looking at your face in a 10x magnifying mirror and seeing all of the pores, wrinkles and little imperfections on your face that you’d rather not look at every day. Saturn prefers that you do. All the time. Until you can see beyond that.

Saturn rips away all of the stories you tell yourself and all of the illusions you live in  by making you invisible. He shows you there is no meaning to life (other than the one we create). That you are a small, meaningless ant in the enormity of the cosmos. You are just a cog in the wheel of the much more important Universal machine that doesn’t have time for the petty grievances of your tiny human life. That’s Saturnian energy.

So naturally, Saturn shone the mirror on all of my egoic attachments. All of the labels I had given myself over the years and so strongly identified my being-ness with.

“Special”
“Important”
“Beautiful”
“Interesting”
“Intelligent”
“Creative”
“Good at business”

Saturn showed me all the ways in which I was none of those things.

But before you go and freak out over Saturn, Saturn sitting on top of my ascendant
didn’t do this to me as some sort of messed up curse.

He stripped me of all of my labels until I realized that I was much more than the
labels, masks and egoic attachments I had piled on over the years.

I became more serious. More introspective.
I noticed that I made people uncomfortable with my seriousness.

Most people are avoiding themselves (just like I was unknowingly doing at the time) by
filling their lives with social pleasantries and distractions or by strongly identifying with a million labels they must constantly proclaim to the world and to themselves to prove that they’re worthy. (When in reality, Saturn shows you that you need absolutely none of that to be worthy. You ARE worthy. You just are.)

When they hang out with someone who is being visited by Saturn, they feel one millisecond of that Saturnian truth-mirror and they want to run in the other direction to avoid meeting themselves face to face.

So, I became a bit of a social pariah.
Conversations were awkward as I was no longer good at small talk or pretending.

Next, I was inexplicably directed by my intuition to give up my cute little apartment in New York, sell everything I own (except for the contents of two suitcases and my dog) and move to Panama far away from my soul community.

There were times when 4 days would go by and I had not spoken to a single soul except my dog, Lucy. And when the time came, she, the only being who had truly seen me during that difficult, two year period, passed away just as it was about to lift.

Truth be told, I lost count of the nights I spent lying in my bed feeling like I would cave in upon myself with loneliness. I felt as if I had gone mute, deaf and blind and lived in a cocoon.

But that’s the crux of it isn’t it?

A caterpillar does not become a butterfly until she is ready.
While the caterpillar is in the cocoon she literally dissolves herself into a dark brown goo.
Everything is a mess and nothing is culturally “beautiful” about it. You cannot open up the cocoon before its time or the goo will leak out and the butterfly will never be born.
You cannot bypass the mess to get to the brightly colored wings and the flying part.

In the same manner–every time I tried to push my way out of the Saturnian cocoon or go back to getting external validation to soothe my ego, it backfired and would not happen.

After I spoke with my astrologer, I realized, that Saturn was here to stay for 2 years and that, as it is with all hard things, I could either surrender and open to the lessons it had for me or fight it every step of the way and sorely lose.

So I surrendered.

I faced the fear my ego had of completely disappearing–that fear that She had been kicking and screaming against for months… and I let go.

Awash in Saturn’s churning, dark ocean, I was pulled into his undertow. I let the waves toss me about like a rag doll until my lungs filled with water and I disappeared into his nothingness.

I gave up the hope of anyone finding me attractive.
I gave up the hope of anyone knowing that I was actually smart.
I gave up the hope of anyone knowing that I was special.
I gave up the hope of being seen.

I let myself die to myself.

And when I did that, all that was left for me to do was to turn the Universal Eye I was seeking attention from, inwards.

I released my attachment and need to be truly seen by another.

I had blindly been stuck in a thought form that said the more I felt seen by the people around me, the more worthy I was. If that man saw me as beautiful and special, that must mean I was all of those things. If he didn’t, was there something wrong with me?
If that person saw me as intelligent, then that meant I could give myself more permission to believe those things about myself too.

And what that had created was a person that sometimes needed external validation from others, in order to feel worthy and good about herself. When Saturn made me invisible, he revealed my attachment to being seen as whatever label I needed to be seen as, in order to feel good.

And so many of us are caught up in this cycle, day after day, without even realizing all of the little ways in which we seek validation from the external world. It’s like there’s a part of us waiting for someone to give us permission to shine.

Can you imagine the toll that getting caught up in this cycle of validation takes on us?

Can you imagine how that totally cuts off true connection with others because in your energetic exchange there is always a subtle energy of you trying to “get” that validation from them?

Saturn helped me see that that is literally the definition of hell.

In this hell you are a raging monster of neediness whose appetite can never be satisfied.
You are so attached and identified with your labels that you minimize how large you truly are by spending all of your time looking for people who will “see” you as all of your small labels, so that you can live in your smallness, vs seeing who you truly are–a vast being that could never be defined by ego-soothing labels.

Saturn showed me all of this.
And the minute I surrendered to Him, I learned how to See myself.
And I no longer NEEDED anyone to see me in order to feel seen.

Being seen then simply became a pleasant fun surprise when it did happen.
But it was no longer a necessity for me to feel good or valid.
It was no longer a necessity for me to be seen, in order for me to exist, take up space in the world and shine in all of my raw, messy Lisa-ness.

I stopped using up all my energy on trying to see how I could be seen as the prettiest, the smartest, the most successful and instead I learned that I am lovable and worthy, whether I am seen or not.

You are lovable and worthy, even if you live on a deserted island and no one sees you your entire life. There’s nothing you have to “do” to be that.

Through the initiation of invisibility, I stopped feeling small when someone in a group with me was praised for a special talent and I wasn’t.
I stopped feeling “not enough” when someone next to me was given a compliment.
I stopped needing to tear someone down when they were getting more attention than me.
I learned that there is a time and place for me to be celebrated and a time and place for allowing another person to be the star.

And that none of that means anything about how wonderful and magnificent you are.

I learned how to truly celebrate another person, to feel joy at the fact that they were being celebrated, without always making it about me “not being seen” if I wasn’t being celebrated, too. I learned to be delighted by someone else being seen, as if it were happening to me as well.

That is true freedom in my book.

It is because of invisibility, that I now know my worth, instead of waiting for you to give it to me with an approving glance or a reassuring word.

Am I perfect at all of this? Of course not.

But if you ask me how I feel about Saturn now, I’ll tell you that he was my great liberator.
The invisibility he gifted to me is the greatest thing that ever happened to me.

Those are the experiences that show us who we really are.
Those are the experiences that set the bright light inside of us free and that leave room for everyone to shine and be visible, because we are no longer shining in order to receive validation–we are just shining because it is our birthright as human beings and is what we naturally do just by existing.

If you’re reading this and you’re feeling invisible, unseen, misunderstood, unloved, unworthy, I want you to open the gift of your invisibility. Untie that ugly bow, lift that heavy lid and see the absolute delight that lies hidden in all those layers of grey wrapping paper.

Repeat this mantra to yourself, daily:
I accept myself, as I am. I am enough. I am worthy just by being. I will not shrink and I will not tear another down when they are shining. There is room for everyone to shine.

My desire for you by sharing this intensely personal story, is that you embrace your invisibility and allow it to show you the truth about who you really are.

You are an intriguingly odd, beautiful, unique Universal creation that can never ever be replicated, that is much greater than you have allowed yourself to see, by letting your labels and external validations define you.

Be grateful for the gift of your invisibility. When we embrace invisibility, we come back into our wholeness and for the first time, because we know that the only person we need to see us, is ourselves.

What matters is that you are allowing yourself to be seen–not that others see you
as
the labels your ego wants you to be.

Embrace the brown goo. Revel in it.
Because it is making way for the astonishing creature you were born to be.

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If this was helpful to you, I’d love to hear from you in the comments below. And if there’s a friend who is struggling with being seen and you’ve have a hunch they’d benefit from it, feel free to share it with them by clicking on the share buttons below.

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Why I let my soulmate go

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I don’t believe we have one soulmate in all of this life.
But I do believe that we are gifted with several soulmates.

Some of them crash against us like bright comets that ride along a trail of wonder and
awe, leaving us forever changed. Some become lifelong friends. Some arduous temporary lovers. Some leave ashes in their wake, forcing us to rebuild what needed to be destroyed.
And some of them marry us.

I’ve met a few soulmates along this path of my life that so far spans 36 years.
They’ve all taught me something valuable and left me a little different than I was before
I met them–more expanded, more aware, more capable of experiencing deeper love.

But there’s one I will always remember, because without even knowing it, he taught
me the importance of trust and surrender. And it’s my belief that learning how to trust
and surrender to the greatness that life has in store for us, is one of the juiciest, best
kept secrets to that amazing, full life that you crave deep down in your heart.

And I don’t mean the trust and surrender you think you know all about.
Oh believe me, I thought I knew all about trust and surrender!
I thought I was actively doing it “right”. Until I had this experience.

I met him at an event. In a room full of egos trampling over each other and people trying to appear like “somebodies”, he was a light of humility, grounding and true, masculine power.

As our eyes connected it was an instant spark for me.

I stayed connected to him after that, watched him live his life on social media, relationships
starting, relationships ending…

You know when you meet someone and you just know that there’s a spark of something
there? Sometimes you can’t quite place your finger on what that spark might turn into, but from that moment on, their presence in the world is an ignited flame in your awareness.
From then on you watch out for them, keep them in your sight and from time to time, at random moments in your own life, you think of them and wonder how they are.
You care about them, even though there is no rational reason why you should care about
this human being you’ve barely interacted with.

Eventually I reconnected with him and in between talking on the phone, laughing so hard my
stomach hurt and having deep, cosmic conversations about the meaning of life & the planets,
something began to blossom in my belly, unspoken.

It danced in me brightly, this electric spark. My body was full of it.
It bloomed in me with a deep reverence, a hot lusty cry of ecstasy, the delicious, sweet pain
one feels when the heart is expanding with wild possibility and the exhilarating fear of the unknown.

I took to dancing naked in my living room in the dark.

Surrounded by dozens of candles I danced the story of what could not be put into words.
I felt alive, riding on a wave of giddy excitement. This love, it brought me face to face with
my own divinity. In the reflections he provided, I met myself over and over again, seeing all the parts upon which light had not shone in a long time and in many cases…ever.

We met up in dreams and in these dreams we made love floating among the stars.
We wrote each other fervently, planning out our life of travel and adventure around the world.
Both always flirting with that edge that says “I think I like you…in that way.”

And then he met another woman and began to fall in love with her.

He would tell me all about her by phone and I would sit on the other end of the line, listening in silence. Every word a hot blade slicing through my heart and tearing up everything inside of me.

You might think that he’s a jerk for doing that. And you might think that I’m stupid for putting up with that. But this was no ordinary love for me.

In ordinary love, many people only think about what they can get out of it. What their own needs are and how to get them met. There are rules and restrictions of personal freedoms, all designed to keep each person where they are, in a safe cocoon where nothing is ever mirrored back to them or confronted. In this type of love, we stay comfortable, we cater to each other’s paranoias and self-sabotage.

I’m not interested in that kind of love in any part of my life.
This was not that kind of love that we as a society have come to define in movies and modern day rom-coms.

This was next level love.

It was a love beyond attachment, beyond my own personal needs. It is what I imagine is the true nature of love beyond our personal requirements and intricacies.

It is a love where you care for the other person’s happiness and fulfillment as much as you care for your own. You value their freedom and their self-expression as much as you value yours. It is a love that doesn’t always keep you safe and comfortable. Instead it asks you to face all of the things inside of you that keep you small, that keep you from stepping into the greatness of your own being.

And that path, my friend, is not always complacent.

In this kind of love, you move beyond the relationship being about you and getting your needs met. Instead your relationship becomes a third living and breathing being. And the question is no longer “what can I get from this?” and instead “what does this relationship contribute to the world? How does what we create together contribute to the wellness of all living beings?”

So I listened to him falling in love with this other woman.

Because beyond my pain, there was a deep desire to see him in his utmost happiness. I witnessed the entire unfolding of that relationship with simultaneous joy for his joy and a heart break so profound it left me breathless.

When I look back on it now, the letting go happened in levels so subtle it has taken me this long to see it. I moved away from the United States and to Panama. But something in me was calling to retreat from my life in the US and bury myself deeply in a cocoon of my own making.

I won’t lie–it was not all enlightened acceptance.

There were times when I felt angry at this woman. For a long time I felt as though she had come in and “taken” from me what I had felt was possibly the greatest love story of my life.
It was a guttural level feeling of having had something profound stolen from me.

I compared myself to her. Sometimes I was tempted to tear her down and think “what does she have that I don’t?”. I allowed it to make me feel “less than” at times. Sometimes I felt it would be easier to dismiss him as an “idiot” for not picking me over her. Find all of his flaws and use them as justification why it would never work if we were together…

But all of those things may seem “easier” to do in order to deal with the situation of getting your heart broken, but they would also mean that my heart would have to close a little bit.

You close your heart “a little bit” enough times and you end up with a chest full of boarded up windows through whose cracks you can sometimes catch a sad dusty glimpse into the warm, glowing home that was once there.

So my choice, throughout this experience, was to keep my heart open.
To choose love no matter what.

And it was painful as hell.
And hard.
And utterly blissful at the same time.

Because when you choose the spiritual practice of an open heart, your heart breaks,
yes, but it breaks open.

And while it is painful at times, you are actually cracking open into more love.
You are expanding the capacity your heart has to hold and give love.
You begin to experience profundities of love that you never knew were possible.

And then one day after being repeatedly baptized by this sacred, painful experience,
I knew it was time to let him go.

I had entertained the idea for months. But it it was too terrifying to pull the trigger then.
It felt as if a piece of me would be ripped away forever. That I would be giving up on the very thing I should fight for, wait for until the ends of the earth.

You see, as he was falling in love with this woman, he had continued to stay in touch
with me. We still had that crazy connection and neither of us could walk away from it.

On the day I let him go I was lying in bed in a half-awake state, lucid dreaming.
He came to me, as he often did in this state. As I saw him in my vision, standing in front
of me, a bit far off was his woman, standing to his left, waiting for him expectantly.

I saw in that moment that he was afraid to disconnect from me and give his heart over completely to this woman he was dating. And I knew that not only did I have to let him go,
but that it was my role as it had always been, to priestess him, to help him let me go, too

It became clear to me that he had been my husband in many of my past lives.
I saw the connection we shared through centuries and dimensions spread out between us, moving beyond time and space. And I knew suddenly that in this life, we were not meant to be together.

Because this was transcendent love, the soul agreement we had made in this lifetime was for me to learn the true meaning of love to move beyond myself to assist him in this lifetime in his heart journey with another woman.  His soul had chosen her for this lifetime and my job was to help him dive deep into that love and learn the lessons he would learn from her in this lifetime.

I kissed him deeply, held him in my arms for a second and gently stepped away from him.

He looked at me, afraid and paused for a second. Then he realized it was okay to step away and he turned his back to me, walking towards the woman who would be his mate in this lifetime.

He turned around two times, as if hesitating to leave me. But I held strong. It was hard.
I nodded to his woman in this life and sent her all of my love. Asked her to please take care of him, one of my great dimensional loves.

And then I set him free.

I woke up from that dream and felt the release in my body.
Everything was different from then on.

I tell you this story because this experience taught me the true nature of loving and being loved. And I don’t just mean in relationships.

All human beings, no matter what we are doing, we are all looking for love.

It may be masked with a million other labels, reasons or experiences, but in the end,
whether we are building our dream business, looking to serve others, writing a book,
traveling the world or having the fight of the century with a loved one, we are endlessly looking to lose ourselves in the inter-dimensional current of unconditional love.

And sometimes, the only way to feel truly nourished by Love’s completeness, the only way to reach “enlightenment” again and again, is to let go, let go, let go.

Let go of our attachments to how we think things should be.
Let go of the dreams we thought we had for our life.
Let go of our labels, others expectations and even our name.
Let go of the thing we love most and set it free…

And fall deeply into the arms of trust and surrender, knowing there is a Universe out
there that is always conspiring to pull you further into a greatness you could never even imagine on your own.

How often do we push that greatness away by refusing to let go of what is no longer serving you? How often do we hang on to that which is not meant for us in this life, because we’re egoically attached to some old story or idea of how things “should” be?

How much suffering do you cause yourself when you refuse to let go of your illusions about how it should have been?

Whoever you are, wherever you are, know this: you must let go in order to receive.

Right now there is abundance untold waiting for you in the soft skirt-folds of our Universe.
In love, in your business, in your relationships, in your spirituality–in all of it.

But in order to receive it, you must let go, you must let Love crack you open,
expand your vision.

It is only through being willing to let Love initiate us that our hearts become unburdened, uncluttered & free. And in freedom comes the highest expression
of your being.

In freedom comes more love than you ever knew your heart could hold.

This means you’ll have to live with a little discomfort from time to time, as all great things require devotion and persistence. All great things are the rebuilding that came in the aftermath of some holy release or destruction.

So I’m grateful to my soulmate for coming into my life and breaking my heart so profoundly (without him even knowing it). I’m grateful that I trusted and surrendered enough to let him go.

Even in that experience, he was showing me the true nature of love, helping me step into the greatness of who I’m meant to be and for that, like I will be forever in gratitude.

What would happen if you chose to love every aspect of your life with a love like that? A love that moves beyond your ego attachments, beyond your fears and ideas of what you think you need?  What could be birthed in a space like that?

Let me know in the comments below.  I always love to hear from you.

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How Magic Got Me a Volcano

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Last year I had one of the most magical, craziest things happen to me.

I ended up being the owner of a piece of land with–get this–3 waterfalls,
a canyon and a volcano right in front of it.  (!!! right?)

This was something I NEVER thought of myself as being–a landowner?
“No way”, I would have said.  “Maybe someday, but not right now”.

I’m telling you this because what I learned from this experience was THE secret
to manifesting anything you desire in your life.  And it’s something I teach
to my clients all the time.  Once they “get” it, their life and their business results
begin to soar.

What I love most about it is how simple it is, too.

So, while I was in Panama for a family wedding this weekend I drove out to that
very magical land that I now am the proud owner of and I made you a video to
teach you my secret sauce ingredient…AND in the video I share with you a
sneak peek of my property so you can see it for yourself!

In this video I teach you the secret to manifesting what you desire AND I share
the crazy story of how I came to be “Lisa-the-volcano-land-owner” in an unexpected,
magical way.

(On a side note…can you believe that on the wedding weekend, my uncles
drank ALL the champagne in the entire town and then paid the hotel staff to go
to surrounding towns and buy more and finished ALL the champagne in the
surrounding towns too?  That’s what you get with a crazy, fun, latin american
family wedding in Panama!  It was a blast!)

Watch the video and then let me know what you think in the comments below
–I’m dying to hear what you think of my magical discovery to help you manifest
what you want!

With devotion to your mission,

Lisa Fabrega

 

ps:  I teach some of what I talk about in my video on my free webinar “3 Steps To
Triple Your Income in 30 Days (Without Selling Your Soul) TODAY at 4pm EDT.

As you  might recall we had such a massive response to this training from 2 weeks
ago, that I had to add on two more classes!  The absolute LAST one is today at
4pm EDT and I am adding amazing prizes like the chance to win a 1:1 session with
me and I’m giving away a Client Yes Toolkit (worth $150) all for FREE, but you have
to be on the call LIVE to qualify for these gifts.    Sign up here now:  theinspiredyes.com

This class has been dubbed by many attendees “the best training I’ve ever attended”
and we got an email today saying “I wish I could listen to this every day!”, so if you
haven’t signed up yet, today is your absolute last chance —> theinspiredyes.com

Even if you can’t make it live, sign up anyway because you can get access to the replay!
(But you won’t get your live bonuses! Those are only for those who are on live.)

 

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I totally blew this

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I’ll never forget how badly I blew my first sales conversation.

I had just been laid off from my job, had opened up my own business and
desperately needed the money to pay my rent.

I had FINALLY gotten someone to agree to sit down and talk with me about
my offerings. I prepared for hours, going over all the questions I had been
taught I “should” ask. Questions that would “close the sale”.

But when the potential client sat across from me, enthusiastic to talk with me,
I totally froze.

Ugh. I felt so WEIRD doing this. I wanted to hide.

First, it felt like I was in some sort of beggar position having to ask for money.

Second, I felt paranoid that she was going to think I was like one of those sleazy
salesmen that lure you into a conversation just to take your money.

And lastly, I was terrified of how she would react at the end of the conversation
when I told her how much the investment in my services was.

But even though I could automatically feel myself shrinking under the weight of
these paranoid thoughts, even though I felt suddenly like I was a burden and
taking this person’s precious time, I pushed ahead like I had been taught to do
and used all the “tactics” that I had been taught by all the books and programs
I had bought to teach me about sales.

To my horror, I watched as the potential client in front of me grew more and more
uncomfortable.

I watched her shrink under the weight of the manipulative questions full of fear
tactics that I had been taught to use to “close the sale”, and by the end of the
conversation, I was so embarrassed to ask for money, that I “blanked’ and
forgot to give her the prices to work with me.

But it didn’t matter, because it was so clear by the end of the conversation
that not only was she a “no” but also that she wanted to get as far away from
me as possible.

I remember I watched her walk out of the coffee shop where we met, I walked
into the bathroom, shut the door and cried my eyes out.

That had just felt AWFUL.

I had gotten into this business to truly serve people and all the things I had
been taught about how to “close the sale” felt totally out of alignment with
how I believed in behaving in the world.

The questions I was asking didn’t feel like me at all.
And I wondered “is this really what you have to do to make money?”

Well I refused to believe that.

Because in my heart I felt that serving people and having integrity always
won out in the end over money-chasing and pushy sales tactics.
I believed in people over profit–and that that equation actually would earn you
MORE money in the long run.

There HAD to be a way to turn the sales conversation into a powerful
transformational tool, that not only shows how amazing you are at what
you do, but that leaves the potential client feeling INSPIRED into a
whole-hearted YES, because they feel so deeply served by that sales session.

So I set out on a quest to find that “way” of doing a sales conversation.
I studied all of the best methods out there and began to add in my own methods
that were more heart-centered and in alignment with truly helping people.

And soon enough, I began closing over 75% of my sales conversations.
I was attracting AMAZING clients into my business that I LOVED.
My business revenue TRIPLED in a matter of just a few months and in the
next year and half, my business hit six figures, and then it hit multiple six figures.

Business owners from all around the world began to come to me to learn WHAT
it was that I was doing and I began to teach them my new sales method, and
then THEY started seeing INCREDIBLE results in their revenue.

In fact, using my modern, soul-centered sales method, my clients pulled
in a combined total of over $3 million dollars in revenue last year in soul-aligned
businesses without having to use any sleazy, out of integrity sales tactics.

It used to be that just a few years ago you could use these tactics on people
and they worked. But the world is different now–people don’t want to be put into
a fearful place, they don’t want to make decisions out of scarcity and manipulation.
They want to be inspired and they want TRUTH.

And there is a way to have an effortless, authentic sales conversation that
inspires the easy, whole-hearted yes in your potential client.

I’m going to teach you this new paradigm of selling on my free webinar,

3 Steps to Triple Your Sales in 30 Days (Without Selling Your Soul)

Click here to register for free.

You’ll learn:

    • How to inspire an immediate “YES” from your ideal client, even if you dread
      the “sales” conversation.
    • A step-by-step question formula I personally use to close my clients 75% or
      more each time.
    • How the current paradigm of “selling” and growing your business is dying, andwhy now is the perfect time to adjust your approach so that your business and
      you don’t get left behind.
    • How I bust through my own resistance and turn my conversations into cash, all by being ME and serving THEM.
    • And so much more…

Come join me to explore the NEW paradigm of selling, so that you can get paid well for your great work, without ever feeling “not good” after a sales session again.

Click here to register for free.

Can’t wait to see you there!

xo,
Lisa

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