I believe that everything you want in life happens when you align with your soul. I'm here to help you do that so that you can create and lead with powerful impact.

Everyone uses the word sovereignty, but what does it actually mean?

Stepping into my own sovereignty
has not been easy.
Sovereignty is to be governed
by the Self,  by your one and true Soul
and not by the influence
of others.

Stepping into sovereignty is going to
piss off some people that you love very much

It means some people might
stop loving you and move on.
It means you might move on, too.

You may be accused of being
rigid or selfish. You may be told
your boundaries are ridiculous.

This happens because we are so used to
Violating our own and each other’s boundaries
that we have mistaken that to be a part of what
“loving and being loved” looks like.

I often hear things like:
love means sacrifice
and while I can understand
the true meaning of that phrase,
too often people use that phrase
to sacrifice their souls, their desires
and their Selves.

But there is a difference between joyfully and willingly
making a sacrifice vs making a sacrifice against your Self
to make sure you don’t lose someone’s love.

The truth is that stepping into sovereignty
will reveal truths about the real dynamics
in many of your closest relationships.
It will trigger many people who you love
and who love you, because we are used to believing
that love means going against yourself
to accommodate someone else’s needs.

But to me, that is not love.

I don’t ever want someone
to sacrifice their Soul yes
for me.  I don’t ever want
someone to make a sacrifice
out of fear that I won’t love them
if they don’t.

I strive for my love to be unconditional.
True love is unconditional.

I am not always perfect at it
but to me, sovereignty
is a form of deep, powerful love.
A love that is truly

When you stand in your  sovereignty,
in your boundaries,
in what creates deep joy,
fulfillment and satisfaction for you
and you refuse to settle for anything
that does not honor your Soul,
you begin to disentangle yourself from all of the
tangled, manipulation-tinged versions of love
that we have been taught.

And instead you become a stand for deep self love
for all in your sphere.

Sovereignty begets sovereignty.

Sovereignty in you allows others around you
to honor their Soul and their deepest calling.

And that is when you get to truly serve the world around you,
instead of try to get them to fit your agenda.
That is when you truly step into soul-driven leadership.

Sovereignty allows you and others
to be who you were truly called here
to be.

It’s not easy.
I have received death threats
from people I love
for holding a boundary
and choosing to love who and what I love,
I have been bombarded
with awful emails from people
who get triggered
by my firm but loving “no”,
I have been ostracized, called names and accused
of many awful and false things.

But none of them compare
to how good, how deeply joyful
and how connected-to-God-
and-love it feels when you allow
yourself to step fully
into your sovereignty.

None of your fears about becoming sovereign
compare to the feeling you get
when you finally stop
making yourself wrong
for loving what you love,
when you make it your art
to unconditionally love yourself
enough to do that for yourself.

The level of transformation in your leadership and impact in the world doubles.

I wish that for you too.
I wish it for all of us 💜





Ps: I am opening up enrollment for my 2017 mastermind for soul-driven leaders very soon. Sovereignty is one of the pillars of soul-driven, impactful leadership and I have been working on this with my private clients for years. If you feel called to explore this and step deeply into your sovereignty next year so you can be the kind of leader that affects true change, stay tuned :-) And if in your soul, you know you feel called to this mastermind and want to chat about it before it opens up to the public, send me a message at [email protected] my assistant can set us up for a chat.  We have half the spots already filled and I think we might launch with only 2-4 spots available based on the high level of interest we’ve had.

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We always hear how amazing following the yes of the soul turned out, after the fact.  But very rarely do people tell the stories of the brave journey that happens right after you leap into your soul’s yes and you’re freaking out.  Very rarely do people tell the full story of the ups and downs.

That’s why this year I started interviewing clients and friends who have been on that journey and that would be willing to tell the full, raw truth of what happens when your soul asks you to leap and you say yes to that leap.  

The interviews turned out to be amazing, with each person sharing how they got through the moments of almost quitting, tools that help them stay brave and more.  I ended up naming them Soul Alchemy Journeys.

This month’s Soul Alchemy Journey is Angelina Deweese.  Angelina is one of my 1:1 clients and a friend.  Our interview was so good we went longer than normal and her story is riveting.  Angelina had a thriving business and had just paid $6,000 to revamp her website, when an interesting opportunity popped up in her world.  After hemming and hawing she realized that her soul was a yes and despite other people around her telling her what she was doing was a bit crazy, she let go of her business and her brand new website to follow this new opportunity.  The result is, months later, 600 people have gone through her new 4 week course and over 500 people attended her first live, large-scale event.

Pull up a good cup of tea, make some space in your morning and get ready for an absolutely soul nourishing and fascinating conversation about what it REALLY looks like to follow your soul.

Click the image below to listen to Angelina’s amazing story and watch the video.

Here are some of the highlights of the video:

  • What happens when your Soul asks you to let go of a thriving business and a brand new website you just spent $6000 on.
  • The tools Angelina uses when her ego acts up when money is tight or things don’t seem to be working out.
  • How having a coach and a community are the secret ingredients to manifesting what you really want.
  • What the process of following your soul looks like: from bliss, to freak out, to peaceful, grounded determination.
  • How to feel safe to follow your soul and how to trust in what your soul asks you to do.
  • The mindset tool Angelina uses to stop a freak out in its tracks.
  • How to navigate conversations with loved ones when they don’t understand the soul-based decisions you are making.  
  • How being willing to fail helps Angelina differentiate between her ego & her soul.
  • How to deal with the trap of believing you have nothing new to offer.
  • Why the 1:1 work we have done together is unlike any other coach or program she has experienced and why it has made a big difference in her life & work.

What did you think of the interview?  What did you get out of it?

I would love to know in the comments below!





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Your Value Has Nothing To Do With Money: A Mini-Rant

Fair warning.  This is a passionate rant.

It’s a rant about a big shadow I see in our world around money, worthiness, valuing our innate and unique talents and how we allow old paradigms about  “value” to make us feel small, powerless and ultimately hide out.

And it all started with a client call that I had last week.

She called me up crying.  I feel so demoralized.  It’s like my worst fears coming true in one conversation.

I was on the phone with a client and she had just had a call with a potential customer.  

My client’s work is really, really powerful.  She does deep, heart-healing work that allows women to call their power back and as a result they end up creating amazing lives.  I’ve seen her client testimonials.  I’ve seen the power of what she does.  It’s good stuff.  She is truly a cutting edge leader in her field.

But she was feeling totally worthless.  Like she’d never get to step into the vision she had for her work to reach and help many people.  All because of this one little conversation.

What the heck happened, I thought to myself.  Then it all came spilling out.

During the session with her potential client, as she covered what their work together might look like and what it could help her potential client achieve, the potential client interrupted her.

So, am I going to make a lot of money doing this?  How do I know I will get my investment back by investing in this program with you?, the potential client quizzed.

My client tried to clarify, well the work I do isn’t focused on making you more money.  The work I do is more focused on looking at the ways in which you don’t empower yourself to create the things you really want in your life.  That might include money, but that’s not the ultimate goal.  The work is deeper than that.  We’re working more on changing deep-seated dynamics that might sabotage you in all areas of your life.

The client interrupted again and said oh.  Well I’m looking more for a coach who is going to give me a strategy and a step by step plan on how I can make six figures in my business this year, so I won’t be choosing to move forward with you.  I don’t have time to do that work, I need to focus on getting to six figures first.  

And then she promptly hung up.

Here’s what I felt hearing this story from my amazing client…and here’s what I still feel about this, because there’s a dynamic here that is everywhere and that hardly anyone actually calls out and talks about.  It’s a shadow we all carry.

I feel sad when I hear someone say or think that the only truly valuable investment in yourself is one where you get money back from it or that will generate more money.  I feel sad when we think that the only results worth investing in, are the tangible ones.

These days I notice a shadow in the world and in our community–a fear that says that if what you feel called to offer the world doesn’t guarantee some tangible thing like “six figures” or “a business model in 5 minutes”, then no one will want it.

I get this fear on a visceral level because it’s a fear I had to really grapple with in the last 6 years.  It’s a fear that finally brought me to my knees so that I could finally release it once and for all.  I suspect I was forced to deal with this fear so that I could assist my community in moving through it as well.

This fear that the only services or work people are interested in paying for is the one that will guarantee them more money or tangible results like “six figures in six months” or “your entire business plan in 30 seconds” is creating something awful.

This fear is creating an entire group of coaches, creatives, business owners and service providers that all look and sound the same.  It’s causing people to deny their true gifts (which may not always be to provide a “tangible” result) and create businesses or offerings that are not actually aligned with their souls.

Haven’t you noticed how many ads on social media and on the internet are starting to sound the same?  I was in this place a few months ago.  Now I’m making sh&t tons of money 6 months later.  You can do it too!  Just follow my 6 step template for success!

Where are all the services that help you dive deep?  That hold space for you to unravel?  That allow you to explore the artist within?  That take you on a nude body painting adventure that shifts your deepest beliefs? That allow you to put on fairy wings and frolic in the woods so that you can get in touch with your inner child and as a result have a closer relationship with your kid?

Where is the creativity?  The uniqueness of each one of our souls expressed in a gorgeous offering from the heart?

A lot of it is being hidden behind a false framework that we think we have to fit into in order to “make money” and survive.  It’s hidden behind cookie-cutter offerings that we think we have to create so that people will be interested in what we have to offer.

And the worst part is, we then equate our success with our worthiness.  

In this old patriarchal paradigm, where only the tangible is worthy, if we create something from our deepest heart that provides powerful intangible results and no one buys it or seems interested in it, then that must mean we suck and we are not worthy because we didn’t do it the way everyone else is doing it.  So we have a whole generation of soul-driven creatives hiding their true soul’s work behind a bunch of BS that is not really reflective of who they really are because they are “afraid they can’t make money doing that”.

It makes me sad that there are still people out there stuck in the mind frame that basically says if you invest x amount of money you should get that x amount of money back.  Because there are things in this life, intangible results, that are far, far more important than getting a monetary return.

If you finish something you invested in, markedly more confident, happy, healthy & in tune with your truth, to me that is so much more valuable than getting your investment back within x amount of months or that you made six figures.

You can have six figures and be miserable, totally out of alignment and be plagued by insecurity.  You can make a ton of money but if you haven’t done interior work that produces INTANGIBLE results, you could blow it all because you don’t feel worthy of keeping that money.  You can have tons of money but your relationships are falling apart, you feel lonely & you secretly hate your life.

So many people come to me, holding back on their deepest purpose, afraid that the work they feel called to do “can’t make them money” because they can’t say that “you will make tons of money and become famous” from those services.  

And so many people invest in programs that could transform them to their core, but they don’t allow the transformation because all they are looking for is whether or not they made their money back.

It’s our patriarchal culture (that is dying) that says that the only things that are of value are the ones that have a dollar sign or a tangible structured result attached to them.  As a result so many people have warped their truest passion to fit into this totally imbalanced paradigm.

And so many people investing in these services never get to the root of what could really actually help them create better results in their lives.

I believe that being fully aligned with your soul, becoming a truly sovereign being, having interior peace, feeling confident in who you are and having the confidence and love for self so that you are not holding back any part of your self expression…these things are INFINITELY more valuable than you getting your money back or making tons of money or becoming internet famous.

It’s why I have removed a lot of references in my marketing materials in the past year and a half that may trigger that in people–I’ve removed the claim that you’ll make this amount if you do this work etc… I only use it in places where I feel it’s appropriate.  For example, sometimes, my clients DO end up manifesting more abundance and expanding their careers or businesses because they have done the soul work to clear out limiting beliefs that could have been blocking that abundance.
But sometimes I work with a woman who finally finds the courage to follow her soul and literally decides to shut down her business for good and release all the money she was making in that business to start something new.  And she is happy as hell and believes it was the best decision she could have ever made.

I want you to think about the people you admire and look up to the most.  The people who are your role models.  If you really look at them, what you’ll find is that they are “successful” in your eyes, not because of how much money they made or how famous they are.  What you’ll most likely notice about them is that they are “successful” because they followed the tune of their soul and did what was true for them. They did it their way.

Yet we still think that we have to be like someone other than ourselves in order to interest people in our great work.

My love, what you have to do is fall in love with being yourself.  Stick to your guns.  Offer what your SOUL feels called to offer.  And stop feeding the machine that says only the tangible matters, by letting your ego only let you invest in things that promise you tangible results. Experiment with investing in something totally intangible and see what happens.

Maybe it’s time we switch our perspective and begin to understand what true VALUE is. Maybe it’s time we realize that our worth is not tied up in how much money we make or how many people like our fb posts or how much traffic we get to our website.  Maybe it’s time we realize that our worth is inherent and that investing in things that grow us and bring us back to our inherent wholeness are inherently more important “results” to get, than just a dollar amount.  

You and your life are so much more than a blueprint, template or dollar amount.

Do you have this fear?   How did this post help you with that fear?  I’d love to know in the comments below.





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How to turn your soul and your ego into soulmates

You have a very strong, brilliant mind, Lisa.  And that is exactly your problem.

My friend’s voice reverberated over the phone as my brain began to spin from that statement.

What the hell is she talking about?  Isn’t that a good thing?, I thought to myself as I caught a glimpse of my mascara stained face in the mirror and jumped a little.

From deep within me I heard a powerful voice speak up: This is not something that you can solve with the mind.  You’re so good at that. But this is your next level of mastery.  To tap into the intelligence that is in your heart.  Mind is intellect.  Soul/Heart is intelligence.

I had been on the phone with a soul sister, at wits end about a “problem” I had been dealing with for 2 years now.  

I had been going through an “existential” crisis around my purpose.  Problem was, I was operating a very successful business around a message that I was now questioning.  A message my soul was calling me to change.  But my mind wouldn’t have it.  I had spent an entire year already feeling completely lost out to sea, not knowing what to do.

My mind said:  this is crazy.  You’ve built a brand around this message.  If you suddenly change it, everyone is going to unsubscribe and you will lose everything.  This is a stupid business decision.  Do not change anything.  Stay with what you’ve built.  Just deal with it, stop being such a baby.  Be a “serious” business owner.

My soul said:  this is what your TRUE purpose is.  We are asking you to move more deeply into your TRUE message.  And this is what your soul-aligned people in your community are ACTUALLY craving and calling out for.  Don’t be afraid, you will be okay.  You cannot be led astray when your soul is a yes.  This is the time for a change.  It is important that you do this.

Two years.  Two years I had spent in this battle between my mind and my soul.  Should I? Shouldn’t I?  It was torture.  I would wake up at 4am sometimes and ask who am I?  What am I doing here?  What is this life all about?

Those nights often felt like I had woken up from a coma and had no idea who I was and how I had gotten here.  And then that feeling would send me into a full on panic attack until the low hum of traffic outside of the window lulled me back to sleep in my sweat-stained sheets.

I remember telling my therapist at the time, it feels like I truly have no anchor.  Like I am floating out in space and I will be stuck here for eternity.

I prayed for clarity.  I prayed for my mind to show me the plan.  I paid a lot of experts a lot of money to help me “figure it out”, get a plan in place.  But still I didn’t have the plan that felt good, that felt clear and that felt aligned.

Until that voice spoke up from deep within me, while I was on the phone with my friend, having my final breakdown.  That was when everything shifted for me in my work.

Just last week, I coached a client through a very similar thing.  And all year I have been doing this.  A lot of people are watching their old businesses or projects change, fall away or they find they are being called into something new they cannot name just yet. They are fighting with the fear of change, of letting go of the successful things they have created and allowing it to evolve with them.  You see, that is the time we are in this year.

This is the year, vibrationally, where truly, what is no longer aligned, can no longer stand.  If we fight it, if we keep trying to go back to our old ways of doing what is not aligned because it has “worked in the past”, things will blow up in our face.  

We are in a time of great change and awakening.  I did a video about it right here if you want to go more in depth with how the earth’s axis/tilt and position actually tells us we are in a time of awakening).  Those of us who came here to this planet, in this lifetime to assist in the evolution of consciousness, to assist in this awakening period that we are in with our true soul’s gifts… we are being called to step into true alignment with what our soul already knows.

We are being called to step into alignment with the Soul so that we can lead from the Soul and use our unique soul gifts to assist in this planetary awakening.

This is why so many of you are feeling a desire to change things up, shift your soul’s work, shift relationships, your message, your purpose and more.

We are being called to step out of the paradigm that is dying.  The paradigm that says the Ego and the mind are the master and the soul its servant.

And we are being called to step into the new paradigm, where Soul is master and the ego/mind is actually the supporter of the soul.

Right now, in the paradigm where ego is master, we spend a lot of time delaying decisions.  Because the Soul says yes!  And the ego immediately jumps into questioning the soul’s decision.  This wastes time as your ego and your Soul battle it out (with your ego usually winning and your soul being suppressed, once more).  This is how we end up in stuck cycles, feeling held back or foggy-headed for months or even, like in my case, years.

Here is a real-world example of how this happens:

A few weeks ago one of my clients told me in a session that she was feeling called to invest in a program that her Soul knew was the next step.  Except, even though she felt her Soul be a deeply grounded and full yes.  Even though she KNEW this was her next step, she was having a hell of a time making the decision to invest.

Her mind was fighting her Soul and creating a lot of fear, saying things like:  Can you afford this?  How can you make this investment when you let all your clients go last month?  You just moved, there’s already a lot on your plate, how can you commit to a whole year long program right now?  Maybe this is not the right time.  

So, she was stuck and couldn’t make the decision because there was a raging battle going on inside between her mind and her Soul. Weeks had gone by and she had missed the early bird pricing because of her inability to make the decision already.  She couldn’t “see” HOW to honor the yes in her soul.

The reason she couldn’t see the HOW of making it happen, was because her mind was focused on the problems that could arise if she said yes to her soul.  (Can you afford this? You just got rid of all your clients, how will you pay for this?  What if you don’t have time? Etc…)

When you focus on a problem, your energy contracts, you go into fear and your creativity dries up.  When you focus on the problem you make Ego the master.

The Soul on other hand, she already knows how to help you make it happen.  She’s just waiting for you to give her the space to show you how to do it.

So, I asked my client:  is this program you want to invest in truly a Soul Yes for you?

Yes, she said.

Okay, so, rather than having your ego fight the decision, how can we use that brilliant mind of yours to SUPPORT the yes in your Soul? Assume you’ve said yes already–how does your brilliant ego mind help you in fully embracing the yes to join this program? (Instead of fighting it).

She was quiet for a while (this usually boggles the mind when you first try it).

All of a sudden she let out a little gasp.

Well, my mind is showing me to create a group program that will bring in the funds to do this.  I already have a few women I know I could invite in who have been asking me for something like this.  And if for some reason the funds don’t fully show up, I have a credit card as back up that I could use so I feel safe in knowing I can make the payment, she said.

There you go.  Doesn’t that feel better?, I teased.

Yes, I feel so much more expansive now and so much better about my decision. I could hear the sigh of relief in her voice.

Just a few days later, another example of this happened on a coaching call with my group coaching clients.

One of the participants was feeling stuck on creating a program her soul had been asking her to create for months.  But she didn’t know what this program was supposed to be about or how much she could charge for it.

Actually, her Soul knew exactly what it was about and what she should charge for it.

But her ego was freaking out.  Isn’t that kind of a shift in the message of your usual programs?  Will people even want to do this?  What if no one signs up because it’s different than what you’ve done before?  Isn’t that priced too high?

As a result three months had gone by and she hadn’t created anything.  She would sit at her desk to create it, but nothing came out. Blank.  She was feeling like total crap about herself because she had not done anything, even though her Soul asked her to create this every day. Can you relate?

Once again, I asked, if your soul is already a yes, how can your ego SUPPORT your Soul in creating this, instead of fighting it?

She closed her eyes and saw her future self walking towards her in her mind.  The future self who had already created and led the program, told her exactly what the program was about and how she priced it.

Instantly, the content of the program downloaded.  Her ego, working with her soul, showed her the marketing plan and the price.  It even showed her a list of people to invite into the program.


This is something I say all the time to my clients.

The soul is simple.
When the soul decides, it’s simple.
Yes. No. Go here. Do that.  

The ego is what complicates it all.  Our deepest fears come up.  The protector instinct of the ego kicks into overdrive and warns you to not change anything.  And then we get stuck, spinning our wheels, not knowing how to see our way out of the thing.  And this is how our greatest soul’s work gets held back in a million little ways.

Your soul, on the other hand, knows it’s going to be okay.  She’s privy to information that your ego can’t yet see.  She is the part of you that is connected to divine intelligence.  How can divine intelligence be wrong?  She knows it’s going to work out in the future and that is why she guides you in the direction she guides you in.  If you can use your ego to support your soul’s guidance, instead of fight it, you save a lot of time and agony and it’s much easier to trust because you’ve got your ego on board.

For years, I have been struggling with writing my book.  A book many of you have requested over the years.  Yet, no matter what I tried, I couldn’t seem to figure out what the book would be about.  What I should write about.


Because my ego told me this had to be the most amazing book ever written, or why even bother?  My ego told me that everyone’s eyes would be on this, so it better be brilliant or I wouldn’t make it to the NYT bestseller list.   And so for three years, I sat down at my computer.  I wrote some things.  But I couldn’t write the book.

So I asked myself the simple question that gets your soul and your ego to be soulmates, working together for your highest good.

What if I could use the brilliance of my ego to SUPPORT my Soul’s yes to writing this book instead of to tell me all the reasons why this book has to be perfect before I even write it?

Literally, five seconds later my dear friend Jen turned to me and out of the blue said to me: I think you just need to give yourself permission to write your imperfect book, Lisa.

It was like my Ego spoke through her.  My ego had been fighting writing the book because...who would I be once I became a true book author?  It had fears about this change.  What if I lost friends who didn’t like me stepping into my power this way?  What if people didn’t like the book?  What if it didn’t make it to the NYT bestseller list?  Wouldn’t I be ashamed and embarrassed?  Could I withstand the embarrassment of not having the book become “the best book of all time”?

Silly ego.

When my ego said, through my friend, just write the book imperfectly, a huge block was removed.  My perspective shifted (because I wasn’t focused on the potential problems anymore and instead using my ego to co-create with my Soul).

Five minutes later I looked at the scrap of torn paper on the table in front of me.  I had written almost the entire outline for the book and knew exactly what it would be about.  In 5 minutes.  Total. Soul. Download.

Simple.  When the Soul leads and the Ego supports, it’s simple.  It’s easy.  It flows.

So that, my loves, is how you get your ego and your soul to be soulmates.

How about you?  What soul directive is your ego fighting right now?  

If you apply the magic question, how can I use my ego to support my soul’s vision instead of fight it?, what happens to the “problem”?

I’d love to hear your answers in the comments below!





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When resistance is soul-wisdom

I could hear it the moment I got on the phone with her.  Her breathing was distressed.  Her voice was strained.

I feel like such a bad business owner.  I feel like there’s more I should be doing to push the business forward, get more clients and make more money.  But all I want to do is lie down, sleep and rest.  I’m not getting anything done and I feel really ashamed.   And at the same time I just can’t seem to “make” myself do what I am supposed to do.  Maybe I need more clarity?  Another plan?

It was time for our weekly session and my client was giving me the run-down on what her last two weeks had been like.  

It was not the first time I had heard these exact words come out of someone’s mouth.  I’ve heard it by now, probably about 200 times.  It’s a very common feeling and conundrum we get ourselves into.

Most of the time when you’re stuck in this, you think you need “another plan” or even though you have a plan, suddenly feeling unmotivated makes you feel like your plan needs to be different or it’s not good enough.  So you go and pay some other expert to give you a different plan.  Or you buy a book that tells you all about another plan.  Or how you should be doing things.  Or how the most successful people in the world do things this specific way.  And then you get stuck in creating a million more plans and strategies, but somehow you still can’t get yourself to “do” what you’re “supposed to be doing”.

You look around and everyone seems to be so much more motivated than you or to have it more together than you.  You start to feel ashamed that all you did that day was sleep in late and read a book because it was all you felt like doing and then you feel like crap.

Now, there is such a thing as self-sabotage.  And self sabotage CAN look like knowing what you’re supposed to do and not doing it.  I see it happen all the time.  We tend to self sabotage especially when we are on the cusp of doing something that is really going to get us into alignment with our soul, when we are on the cusp of stepping into the person we know we are truly called here to be.

The ego likes comfort and so it will do whatever it can to get you to stay the same.  Often this looks like bingeing on Netflix, doing everything BUT what you’re supposed to be doing to move things along and getting distracted by other pointless things.

But sometimes there’s a wisdom to that resistance you are feeling.  In fact, I think resistance is not something to try to demolish or get rid of.  I think it’s something to get really curious about.  

What message does this resistance have for me?
Is the resistance truly because I’m self sabotaging?
Or is the resistance there because I’m out of alignment?
Or is it there because I actually need space right now to not make any decisions at all?

A long time ago I was working with a client who was going through a very stressful situation in her life.  When we got on the phone for our session, she guiltily confessed to me that she, a woman who taught women how to eat healthily, had spent two days eating more brownies than she normally would eat.  She was stressed out, emotionally devastated and even though she knew all the techniques, she still ate more brownies than “she should”.

My response to her?

Sometimes you just need to eat the brownies for 2 days.

Sometimes you just need to eat the brownies to get through the day, love.  Sometimes you just need to take that job “just for the money” to experience how shitty it felt to do something just for the money.  Sometimes you aren’t in resistance or self-sabotaging at all.  Sometimes your resistance is your soul asking you for some space.

Look around at nature–it has cycles.  Winter, Spring, Summer, Fall.  We are part of nature.  We go through cycles too.  There is a time for fallowness and doing nothing.  There is a time for action.  There is a time for rebirth and creativity and there is a time for play.

As I told my client who was on the phone with me, feeling ashamed over “not doing what she was supposed to be doing”, maybe there is wisdom in this resistance to “doing”?  When we checked in with her soul, that was indeed true for her.

She had just been through a major life transition and had left a big part of her old life behind.  Her body was catching up with the quantum leap it had made.  It needed rest and time to do “nothing”.  
But most of the time, when we feel this way, we feel we “should be” doing something.  So we still “do nothing” but we spend the entire time we are doing nothing feeling guilty about it and beating ourselves up.  So your body, who was asking for rest, doesn’t actually get the rest She was needing and keeps asking for rest until she gets it.  That turns into two weeks or a month of doing nothing. Your guilt and your shame just prolongs it.

My “homework” for my client was simple:  great.  Then really, really do nothing for as long as your soul asks it of you.  Your soul just wants to play and go to the beach?  Do ONLY that.  You have permission to not feel guilty.  Go for it.  No “doing” or “work” allowed.

She did just that.  She was afraid at first.  She thought it would turn into 2 more weeks of going to the beach and doing nothing, and then that would lead to her entire business collapsing. But instead, within just a few days, she was full of new, creative ideas and naturally, easefully sprung back into action, feeling aligned.

Sometimes there is a wisdom to your resistance.  Sometimes the answer is not more plans and more busy work, sometimes the answer comes when you’re allowing yourself to do nothing but stare out at the view from your balcony for an entire day.

Sometimes the exact thing you need to do to get into aligned, creative action is to actually do absolutely nothing.  Sometimes what you need is more unadulterated, unashamed space.


How about you?  I’d love to hear from you in the comments below if this resonated with you!

With love,





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