If you’re reading this, I know that you are a leader. You’re here to do big things. And if you’re reading this, you’re also probably growing, changing, and upleveling — quickly. What may also be true is that the people around you, your partner in particular, may not be growing at the same pace. That can cause resistance and friction between you that can manifest as arguments about big investments in your growth, sarcastic comments, and fear. How do we handle those situations? How do we approach their fears, their resistance with compassion and attention, but without compromising our needs?   These confrontations can be very triggering, but when you approach them with this counterintuitive trick I teach my clients, … Continued

In the last year or so we’ve been witnessing the calling out of many public figures. If you’re here reading this, then I know you’re called to the path of leadership. Naturally, as leaders, when these things happen we think, “thank God that’s not happening to me.” Sometimes our egos kick in and say “See? This is why it’s better to stay small. So that you don’t get killed in public every time you make a mistake.” And then we shrink. Avoid having the difficult conversations. And a small part of us holds back, afraid that we will mess up and become the focus of the wrath of the public eye. Now if you know me, you know I’m all … Continued

I was so sick on the way over here. I felt like I might die. I had made a decision to move across the country to a place I had never even seen, yet felt called to go to. And now I was flying to California, just a mere two weeks later. The entire time my stomach rumbled. I couldn’t eat a thing. Digestion was all effed up. When I stopped in LAX for my connection to Santa Barbara, the anxiety was at its worst. I sat down in the airport lounge in a quiet corner to catch my breath and try to prevent a full blown panic attack.   It is this way, you see, when we leave the … Continued

YESSSSSS!!!!!! That was my first response when I caught a glimpse of my friend Denise DT’s Facebook post about Beyoncé at Coachella. Quickly followed by chills all over my body. According to the post, in the middle of her jaw-dropping show at Coachella last week, Beyoncé went backstage during her outfit change. She not only changed her outfit, but she changed her nail polish color too. Yes, her nail polish color. Now there have been some disputes about whether this actually happened (some say both pictures were from different shows). But it doesn’t matter.   Because Beyoncé is arguably one of the best performers in the world.   And I wasn’t surprised in the least when I heard she may … Continued

In the last month and a half, I’ve had a peculiar little nudge from my intuition. I’ve been noticing something odd in myself, my clients, and other leaders I speak with. So, I sat down and tuned in. There is an invitation happening right now in the field. It’s for leaders who are here to lead big. But it’s up to you all to take it, said my soul. So I asked “being invited to what? What is the exact nature of this invitation?” Silence. So I went on with life. But then the clues to the answer started to pop up everywhere.   It became very clear what the invitation was.   (Heads up — you might feel a … Continued