Go online, to a networking event, or join a mastermind and you’ll notice this: everyone says they want to make seven figures and beyond. Impact the world. Speak at the UN. Become the thought leader darling of their industry. Get on Oprah. Or the New York Times Bestseller List. Have a Fortune 500 company. But here’s the truth: few cultivate the CAPACITY to receive, show up for, and handle their seven-figure/UN speaker/Oprah-Superstar-version self. That’s when you see someone hit their big goal, but shortly after they’re getting divorced, their life is falling apart, anxiety has hit an all-time high, or the behind the scenes is a sh$t show. I’ll never forget the Instagram star I knew of who had an …

A few years ago, I was on the phone with my friend Dyana, talking about an old flame I’d recently reconnected with. We’d always liked each other, but somehow things between us had never materialized, due to timing and a variety of other factors. Then, out of the blue, 10 years later, he reached out. We exchanged a few emails and texts, had a few deep phone conversations. He left flirtatious comments on my social media accounts. All signs pointing to interest… right? Except the last few times we’d texted it had taken him a few days to respond. My attempts to clarify where we stood were met with evasive responses like, “we’ll talk soon.” And it had now been …

The pain sizzled through my leg and up to my spine and neck. Bright, red rivulets of blood were sprouting from my knee and the whole first layer of my skin was gone. I squinted my face tight to resist the next wave of pain about to hit as my nerves sent the signal of this gruesome sight to my brain.

My mother walked over to me and said, “Honey are you okay? Are you hurt?” She could tell I was in a lot of pain and wanted to comfort me.  

She’s told me this story a few times in my life. How I looked at her as she went to comfort me, moved her arm away and said, “I’m fine.” How she saw me suppress the pain on my face, brush off the gravel from my knee, and stand up and keep going.  

The other day I watched a video of a soccer player that blew my socks off! As the owner of a highly successful business approaching 10 years in existence, I felt every piece of that womxn’s journey trying to get that ball into the net! And that level of relentlessness is the exact level of relentlessness that I’m sure you can identify within yourself as the legacy maker that you are. After all, you wouldn’t have achieved all you have already WITHOUT that level of determination. When you have a strong mission and a large impact to make, THAT is the level of energy and stamina you need. And yet… SO many womxn I work with have previously had the …

“If one more person tells me to go do self-care for two hours with champagne, bubbles, and chocolate in a tub I’m going to tell them to shut up.”

I was on the phone with a client and she was venting. She was recently the newly-minted CEO of a very successful, multi-million dollar family-owned business, and in her words, this powerful badass felt like “life wasn’t working anymore”.

She was showing early signs of adrenal fatigue, couldn’t imagine adding another single thing to her plate, her marriage was showing strain, and she was having serious issues dealing with the team she was now managing.