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What I’m done with

What I’m done with

You little brat! Don’t think that I’m not going to see you for who you really are now that your father isn’t here to protect you!

She grabbed my wrist hard and snatched the yogurt cup from my hand. I thought she had broken my wrist. I was stunned and couldn’t speak. I didn’t understand what had just happened. One minute my father was standing there in the kitchen and she was sweetly caressing my hair as if I was a good girl and the next my father was leaving to go back to Panama City and I was looking at the angry, distorted face of a woman accusing me of something I hadn’t even done, simply because I was grabbing the yogurt from the fridge that was part of my daily afternoon snack.

That was the moment I learned that someone can voluntarily choose to see you as something you aren’t. That someone can twist your actions and your words into something that makes you seem like a monster.

For some reason this kept happening to me throughout my life growing up. Always with women who were in positions of power. Any time I showed up authentically and powerfully, I got smacked down. Like the time I got an A on a test the rest of the class got B’s and C’s on and the teacher insisted I cheated. I answered all of her questions, proved to her I hadn’t and she still leaned over to me in front of the classroom and under her breath whispered to me: don’t think I don’t see you for who you are. I have my eyes on you and I will catch you.

Of course, she never did, because I was simply not cheating.

It didn’t make matters any better that I was growing up with a close person in my family on the Narcissistic Personality Disorder spectrum. People with NPD think they are right about everything and if something you are or do doesn’t line up with their idea of how the world should operate or be, they tend to accuse you of being a bad person because you don’t line up with their ideals. Or if you dare to stand up to their abuse and ask them to stop, they spread rumors to everyone who knows you to make you look like the “bad guy” and them like the victim.

Like the time I dated someone this person in my family didn’t agree with and they called me up to tell me that I had clearly deliberately decided to date this person to “ruin their marriage” and “destroy the fabric of the family.” Apparently that was the motive that was projected onto me. It wasn’t enough, I guess, to simply be in love with someone and want to be with them.

This happened to me everywhere, over and over. I vividly remember being in the online forum for my coaching school because I love to help people and being called by the head of the department and told to stop acting helpful as a ruse for getting clients. I cried my eyes out for two days over that incident. My coaching practice was sold out, so I didn’t need clients.

Being online and more visible in the last 7 years has brought with it its shares of projections from other people as well. When you’re online and someone hasn’t sat down with you face to face, sat in your home, had a conversation with you over tea and can hide behind a screen, a lot of things you say or do can get twisted. Especially when most people out there are not taught to process their emotions properly and healthily.

Just this week I was accused of benefiting off the suffering of others and only choosing to speak up about social matters when it was “beneficial” to my business and when I could make money off of it.

Clearly this person has not been following me very long (cause y’all know we always talk about the difficult stuff here and always have). And clearly this person did not know me at all other than what they saw in a few posts they read, or they would have known I have been getting in trouble for fighting for social causes my entire life. Waaaayyy before I was online and visible to larger audiences.

It was a particular incident this week where a posse of people intent on proving me to be an ignorant @sshole executed a series of mean messages and comments filled with sweeping generalizations about me that got me to really sit with this on a deeper level than before. And to be clear, this is a wound I have been working with my entire life, so this is not new. But it’s amazing how different experiences can break you open into healing the wound on deeper and deeper levels.

The wound I have around not being seen.

I have carried it with me my entire life, being raised by a family that cow-towed to a narcissist who had to be the “good one” in the family, therefore I had to be the “bad guy” role, whether that was actually me or not.

I felt that inner child who is so hurt from the emotional and physical abuse she endured over perceptions about her that were not true and that instead were the projections of mentally unstable family members.

I felt the child in me that wants people to see how much her heart loves and how deeply she cares. I felt the child in me who cries every day for the world, who sees so much pain and suffering and who has gotten into a lot of trouble going against the status quo and defending those who have less privileges than her. I felt how hurt she gets when people twist her kindness into a projection of a person who does not care, who isn’t aware.

I felt that wound deeply. I talked with a therapist I trust. I called my soul back to me. I called my power back.

I told that child in me that it is safe to be powerful without other women trying to tear you down. I said out loud: I am complete with that pattern, and I am done with calling women into my life who continue to live out that pattern with me, where they deliberately choose to use me as a punching back for their own triggers and projections. I cut the cords even deeper.

And something in me released. A deep-seated fear that says: if you don’t see the goodness in me, if I can’t prove my goodness to you, then I won’t survive.

And I reached a new level of “being done” with how I am interpreted and perceived. I healed a deeper part of that child who grew up around female figures who accused her of bad intentions that were not there and constantly demanded she “prove” her goodness to them by doing what they think she should do.

You want to send me ugly messages telling me I’m just like every other scammy marketer out there because you have a chip on your shoulder about marketing? Go for it.

You want to tell me I only care about supporting causes for the underprivileged in our society that are near and dear to my heart because it’s “convenient” for my business to “appear” this way and that my care for the world is not genuine? Go for it.

You want to tell me who I am, what is really in my heart and soul and what I do or don’t fight for every day after seeing me for a few seconds on a screen or reading a few blog posts? Go for it.

You want to assume what I’m aware of and not aware of and draw vast assumptions and conclusions about my character and my care for the world from that? Knock yourself out.

You want to call me superficial, money hungry, elitist, or greedy because I charge for the work I was put here to do? Go for it.

The truth is, there is nothing to prove, love. You don’t have to keep trying to prove your goodness to people who actually never wanted to see your goodness anyway. It’s pointless to spend precious time and energy trying to prove your goodness to a person who is simply using you as a tool to work out their own projections and triggers.

I am not going to fall into a trap of showing you “what I have done” as “proof” of being a good citizen of this earth.

Because I know who I am. I know what I am here to do. I know what is true in my heart. I know how much my heart bleeds for this world and how hard I work for all living beings to be free. I know what I work towards every day behind the scenes and have my whole life.

I am not here to show off all of my acts of service to prove my goodness, holiness or worthiness to you, because that defeats the point of doing an act of service. It’s not for accolades or for you to notice me doing good things. It’s because it is my duty as a citizen of this earth who has advantages that others do not.

You have nothing to prove, love. I have nothing to prove.

Does that mean we shouldn’t constantly check ourselves, look at our blind spots, continue to work on ourselves and improve every day? Not at all. All of those things can happen without you having to constantly prove your goodness to another person who is deliberately choosing to project their own fears onto you.

I am complete with this pattern. Think of me what you will. Sew a scarlet “A” to my dress. Talk horribly about me behind my back and in private forums. Write passive aggressive posts about my perceived evil-ness on your social media. Make me the horrendous villain in your story. Burn my effigy. Have at it.

I release it all, I release the desire for you to truly see who I really am. I do this for me and I do this for all of us.

I am who you say I am. I resist nothing. Create whatever avatar of me you need to create.

I release my attachment to being seen by you.

And then repeat after me the above words if you are done with this too.

The truth is, you have nothing to prove to anyone other than to God/Universe and yourself. There are people who will never, ever see you and don’t want to see you because they need to make you the villain in their story. Let them, hon. Let them.

Let it all go.


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Transmuting your worry into a lasting legacy of change

Transmuting your worry into a lasting legacy of change

I know you’ve been worried. I know you’ve been watching the news every day, checking in to your Facebook feed and feeling exhausted and fearful seeing all that has unfolded in our world in the last few months. And I know that at times you have felt helpless, overwhelmed, and not sure WHY this is all happening.

Many of you have written to me telling me that you feel powerless to what is happening. Like this is all some nightmare that you can’t wake up from. You wish that someone or something would wake us all up already and save us from this.

I feel extremely certain about the reason why this is happening to our world. And today I want to tell you what I think this is all about so that you can feel better.

I want you to know this, so you can take action that will actually make a positive difference, instead of spinning in circles of repeating fear. I want to help us all finally flip this cycle of violence, power-mongering, and hatred in the world, so that good can prevail over evil once and for all. I want us to be able to end this cycle that our world repeats every 50-100 years, forever.

What is actually happening right now: What we are seeing now is the last death throes of a dying paradigm of disconnection and false brokenness. We are seeing the last survival attempts of a perishing system where profits have won over humans, where rights have been trampled in the name of greed & self interest, and where we fail to see that we are all connected.

In essence what we’re seeing here is direct challenge to the third chakra of our collective: the center of our power.

The third chakra (or as I call it, the third gate of the Soul), is where we connect to our personal responsibility, our power, and how we will our purpose in the world. The truth is that for too long our third chakras have been out of whack — both collectively as a society and individually. And now the soul of the world is asking us to bring it into balance — for the sake of the future of humanity. Yes, it’s that serious.

For too long we have all been giving away our power to sources outside of us. We have refused to parent ourselves and take full responsibility for our world and our purpose and instead given that power to a guru, a leader, celebrity or expert.

We live in a false paradigm that says we are broken and there is something wrong with us inherently that we need to fix. Look at all the ads out there (your body isn’t like that of a supermodel, you need to fix that with this diet or pill!), and the rhetoric of politicians (this country is failing, we need to make it great again!)

But if we believe that we are broken that immediately means we can’t trust in our soul’s instincts and impulses. So we invalidate and mistrust the greatest source of power we have available to us — our Soul’s voice. And instead, we look for answers outside of us. We delegate our trust to others and subconsciously ask them to hold our power for us. We expect them to parent us and save us, because we hold the belief that we are broken.

Unfortunately the leaders, presidents, gurus, and celebrities that we worship to give us the answers we refuse to seek inside ourselves have a little problem. They are also often ruled by the paradigm of brokenness. And they are not always making decisions from their center of true power, the Soul. Instead, they make decisions from the ego.

And those kinds of decisions damage us all. They create chaos in the world. Because to come from the ego means to come from our fear and our limiting beliefs. Essentially we give our power away to people who are just as lost as we are.

We give our leaders the responsibility of governing our lives. And often, these are old-paradigm leaders who think power is about dominating and causing others to submit to their will. When the submitted get fed up enough, they overthrow the dominators and then cause others to submit to their will. And the cycle continues.

This is the cycle we are supposed to break this time around. So this is the most important post you could read all year. Our future depends on it.

This is why we’re in this current mess to begin with. The Tao says, “before expanding, there must be shrinking.” It is always darkest before the dawn. And we are in the darkest part of the night right now because it’s time to end this unhealthy relationship with our power. It’s time to stop giving away our power and finally reclaim it. It’s time to stop waiting for someone to come save us.

No one is coming to save us.
We are the ones who are here to save us.

And I believe the world has given us these challenges right now to FORCE us to finally save ourselves. To finally take back the responsibility for creating our world from our leaders and give that responsibility back to ourselves. It is up to US to create the world we want to live in. And it’s time for us to take the reigns.

So many of us say we want to impact the world positively. We can’t do this if we don’t reclaim our relationship with our third chakra, our center of power, and personal responsibility. We can’t do that if we don’t start to trust in the divine guidance that comes moment by moment from our Soul.

In your Soul is your power. In your Soul is the reality that you are NOT broken. Your Soul knows the truth — that you are whole. And that you CAN trust in that voice that whispers to you late at night. The one that pulls you gently to your calling.

In your soul is the only blueprint you will ever need to live the life you were called here to live. And connecting to your soul is THE priority we should all be focusing on right now, because in our Soul lie the answers we are seeking. NOT outside of us. But within.

Reclaiming the voice of the Soul is how we reclaim our power. When we finally connect to and actually get the courage to DO what the soul tells us is best for us, we are no longer manipulated by the external gurus and leaders who are coming from brokenness. We trust our own answers and we follow our own instincts.

And because the soul is inherently good, the decisions we make from a soul-driven place are decisions that not only lead to the best life we can life, but also free others to do the same.

I believe finally making the Soul master over the ego’s fears is the way to change this endless cycle of fear and violence in the world forever. And if you want to make an impact, I believe connecting to your soul is the most important step you can take to make that impact.

The world needs you.
Connected to your Soul more than ever. Aligned with your TRUE power.
Led by the divine truth inside of you. More. Than. Ever. We need leaders, like this.
Like you.

If we can finally, finally, flip this old paradigm of brokenness on its head… if we can finally stop giving our power away to others who make bad decisions with the power we have given them… If we can finally become our own saviors by trusting in the guidance of the Soul voice within, then we might actually have a chance of helping good prevail over evil. We might actually have a chance to flip this paradigm once and for all and break through the darkness into the light.

We have been called to the planet at this time because it is part of our purpose to serve in the new age of light that is coming. That means we have to double down on walking the talk, doing the soul work, to be a soul leader in the world. That means we have to get over our fears of using our voices. That means we have to be brave and stand for kindness and love. That means we have to stop giving our power away to vanity metrics, celebrity, and the things of our ego and instead honor what’s true in our Soul.

Did this resonate with you? I’d love to know what resonated with you the most in the comments below. And if you want to start building a clear relationship with your Soul and become a soul whisperer — check out my free Soul Whispering challenge starting very soon.

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The Nasty Mirror We’re Facing (Part 2)

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So many of you asked me to share my intuitive and “bigger picture” thoughts on what the heck is going on in our world right now. This happened after two social media posts I did went viral and generated a ton of insightful discussion in our community. We must have really hit a positive nerve, because I’m really enjoying the wonderful conversations we’ve been having.

If you haven’t watched Part 1, yet, watch that first right here, then head on over to watch Part 2 below. Otherwise it won’t make much sense if you start with Part 2.

Highlights include:

– How we have gotten the real meaning of unconditional love completely wrong for centuries

– What my week volunteering at Standing Rock taught me about unconditional love

– The “myth” about anger that creates so much destruction in the world & within us

– How to stop shaming and repressing your anger

– The difference between anger & hate

– A tool to process and channel your anger in a productive & effective way

My hope is that when you finish watching these, you will feel empowered, and ready to take action for the good of our world. My desire is that these videos move you out of panic, darkness, and fear, and into soul-warrior, light-bearing, action.


Did this resonate with you? I’d love to know what resonated with you the most in the comments below. These videos take a lot of work on our team’s part, so we love hearing from y’all that they helped!

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The Nasty Mirror We’re Facing (Part 1)


So many of you asked me to share my intuitive and “bigger picture” thoughts on what the heck is going on in our world right now. This happened after two social media posts I did went viral and generated a ton of insightful discussion in our community. We must have really hit a positive nerve, because I’m really enjoying the wonderful conversations we’ve been having.

So I created a two-part video series, called “The Nasty Mirror We’re Facing.”

Here is Part 1, ready for you to watch! Set aside 20 minutes for this one. Bring your favorite beverage, get cozy, and get ready to have your mind blown.

Highlights include:

– The outdated world paradigm that is in its last death throes

– Why evil won’t win & why things look so bleak right now

– How the election of the US president is a mirror that is forcing us to face ugly truths we must detox once and for all

– The 4 things we are being asked to detox (I reveal the first one in part 1 this week, and the remaining three are coming next week, in part 2)

My hope is that when you finish watching these, you feel empowered and ready to take action for the good of our world. My desire is that these videos move you out of panic, darkness and fear into soul-warrior, light-bearing, action.


Did this resonate with you? I’d love to know which part resonated the most with you in the comments below.

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She made a deal with the darkness


A long time ago, in a past life, she misused her great power. In that lifetime she participated in the dark side of the matriarchy and her power went to her head. She manipulated and hurt many. She watched, in that life, as her face distorted from so much unchecked power. How the darkness took over her heart until it became her own demise.

When she was born into this lifetime, she wanted to make sure that this never happened again. And so, from the moment her eyes glimpsed this new life, she unconsciously made a deal with the darkness. Because some part of her still remembered that lifetime, long ago. And the darkness obliged.

It agreed that it would always show up to nip at her and keep her in check. To avoid causing the pain in this lifetime with her power that she had caused in that past life. To pay for her sins a lifetime ago.

She danced with the darkness in her childhood, surrounded by dark matriarchs who always nipped at her when she spoke her truth or sought to quash her power. As she grew, every time she owned the beautiful power that she was, a Dark One would show up to knock her down just one tiny step. A rude comment on a post or a piece of writing. Unsolicited feedback from someone projecting their pain or looking for someone to blame. A teacher who told her her dreams would never be. A friend who felt threatened and used passive aggressive remarks to keep her from stepping into her true gifts for fear there would be “competition.” A lover who withdrew his affection every time her unabashed delight filled the room with her soul’s radiance. People in her tribe who secretly wished her to fail and cast spells upon her when she open-heartedly shared her big dreams and aspirations. Others who called her conceited and fake under their breath, when she was confident and optimistic. And many who shamed her for being sensitive.

For many years, she stayed in this dance with the dark side. To be kept in check. To pay for the transgressions of other lifetimes. To make sure she would never hurt someone with her power again.

And then one day she met a healthy matriarch. One who was not threatened by her power, but rather encouraged it. One who knew that her ability to change the world lay in the very thing she was keeping in check. This healthy matriarch told her, “You don’t need to dance with the dark side anymore. You don’t need it to show up to make sure your power stays in check.”

And suddenly, she remembered there was a higher power that would always keep her balanced: her Soul. It’s connection to all of divine wisdom and love. She remembered her Soul would show her when she was mistaken and when she was coming from ego. Her Soul would bring her back to love if she ever overstepped her own integrity and wholeness. This remembrance felt like a sweet homecoming. The world opened up all anew now that she knew the darkness was not something she needed anymore to keep her in line.

She said a prayer of forgiveness for her past life misdeeds.
She called her soul and her power back.


The other day you asked me to help you with something.

You who have chased me around with your darkness for years.
You who have sought to slice through me in the tiniest ways
because you cannot accept yourself.

You who have sought to tear down my credibility in front of others I respect.
You who have taken my most heartfelt gestures and twisted them into
the ugliness of competition and power games. You who delight
when someone seeks to cut me down and join in on the fun.

You, who have done all of this, who has shown up as Darkness,
asked me to help you.

I think you must be mistaking me for someone I used to be.
You must still think I am that woman who would play the sacrificial animal
because she has the gift of a bleeding heart. You must still think I believe
in the spiritual bypass that ‘we should help everyone,’ even when they seek
to crush our life force repeatedly with the boulder of their anger and resentment.

I almost fell back into that pattern again. I almost responded.
I almost put everything aside to jump in and help you. You who despite barely
knowing me, have treated me like a disposable punching bag for your insecurities
because you cannot stand to face the greatness in you that I reflect back to you
every time that I stand in my authentic power.

I almost replied.

I almost forgot that unconditional love is not unconditional love
if it doesn’t include me in the equation.

So I will not respond to you.
I will not enter into that game with you ever again.

It is not my job to save you by sacrificing my own power.
It is not my job to dance with your darkness to save you.


She said a prayer of forgiveness for her past life misdeeds.
She called her soul and her power back.
She brought herself back into the present life.

And for the first time she felt safe shining ever-expansively without there needing to be an end or a ceiling. She showed her full face unabashedly, knowing she could finally trust that she had learned the lessons from that last life and no longer needed to carry her tail between her legs.

And she invited other women who were carrying the same wound to do the same:

You don’t need the dark side to keep you in check. You don’t need to dull yourself just a little to make sure you don’t misuse your power.

You don’t need to keep inviting people into your life who will slowly leave you like an open gaping wound with all of the little cuts they impose upon you over time.

You don’t need to keep being the rabbit that tells the hawk of your hiding place over and over again. You don’t need any of that in order to deserve the brightness of your light.

You don’t.

Just shine, my love. Shine.
Thank the darkness for what she has taught you and set her free now.
Send light into the darkness to all of those hurting souls who are still in a dance with that lack of light and who desire to draw you into their shadowed caves.

And let’s shine,
ever-expanding, limitless,
pulsating with endless possibilities
of light.


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