A few years ago, I was on the phone with my friend Dyana, talking about an old flame I’d recently reconnected with. We’d always liked each other, but somehow things between us had never materialized, due to timing and a variety of other factors. Then, out of the blue, 10 years later, he reached out….

The pain sizzled through my leg and up to my spine and neck. Bright, red rivulets of blood were sprouting from my knee and the whole first layer of my skin was gone. I squinted my face tight to resist the next wave of pain about to hit as my nerves sent the signal of this gruesome sight to my brain.

My mother walked over to me and said, “Honey are you okay? Are you hurt?” She could tell I was in a lot of pain and wanted to comfort me.  

She’s told me this story a few times in my life. How I looked at her as she went to comfort me, moved her arm away and said, “I’m fine.” How she saw me suppress the pain on my face, brush off the gravel from my knee, and stand up and keep going.  

The other day I watched a video of a soccer player that blew my socks off! As the owner of a highly successful business approaching 10 years in existence, I felt every piece of that womxn’s journey trying to get that ball into the net! And that level of relentlessness is the exact level of…

“If one more person tells me to go do self-care for two hours with champagne, bubbles, and chocolate in a tub I’m going to tell them to shut up.”

I was on the phone with a client and she was venting. She was recently the newly-minted CEO of a very successful, multi-million dollar family-owned business, and in her words, this powerful badass felt like “life wasn’t working anymore”.

She was showing early signs of adrenal fatigue, couldn’t imagine adding another single thing to her plate, her marriage was showing strain, and she was having serious issues dealing with the team she was now managing.

It’s been almost 10 years since I started my current business and I’ve worked with thousands of womxn at this point. I have given them all a variety of homework assignments after coaching calls with them to help them expand their capacity so they can step into a whole new way of being in the world.

But there is one exercise that has stumped ALL of them. It’s so hard for them to do that they’d probably solve the world’s hardest math equation more easily than they could do this assignment.

Want to know what it is?

Something I did recently walloped me. And I felt shame and remorse for weeks afterward. It impacted me so profoundly that it sent me down a deep rabbit hole about the state of our online communities and the relationship between online creators and the people they create for.

And that is what I want to talk to you about today.It’s time we had a heart to heart about this. Why? Because we are the ones creating our worlds and shaping our collective future, especially in the online spaces and communities we belong to.

Every once in a while you work with a client who has a growth trajectory so huge, it inspires you for years afterward. I’m lucky to have many clients like that, many of whom are still in touch with me today. But today I want to introduce you to a womxn who through expanding her visibility capacity, managed to get heads of state to sign petitions for entire countries to abolish nuclear weapons.

Make sure you listen to the end for a special invite to an exclusive FB live I’m doing tomorrow with a secret, amazing guest that I brought in just for you this month.

I made a pretty big decision three weeks ago that I’ve kept pretty quiet. Until today. Meet my “surprise kids” Sadie (left) and Luna (right). There will be more stories on them and the incredible journey it took to get here in the future, but for now, I want to share one of the major lessons they’ve already taught me about expanding your capacity…

In graduate school years ago, I shared a house with a male classmate. What I loved about our relationship is that it was 100% platonic, so the boundaries were clear between us (you’ll know why I’m saying this in a moment). Which meant we could have some pretty deep conversations about relationships, sex, and connection in general, knowing there’d be no “unspoken expectations”.

One night after I made us a housemate dinner, he opened up to me…