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mindset work doesn’t work
Whenever I talk about Capacity something interesting happens. Inevitably, I get a bunch of comments from people that say ““yes! I’m working on my mindset!” or they’ll say they’re working on their capacity when what they’re actually doing is just signing up for another “mindset hacks” course. People often think when I talk about capacity…
it’s a waste of time
What “life lessons” have you learned in the past ten years? For me there are a few that stick out (and that consequently I teach in Capacity Work™). But there was one life lesson I kept thinking about all week which I’ve personally learned the hard way: Don’t fight harder for someone than they want…
the nasty voice
On Monday, I woke up to screaming. It was me, screaming at myself in my head, “My life is just beginning to get really good, this is only the beginning! I create my reality!” It was the voice of my higher self (I call her my sovereign self) yelling at the voice of my tricky…
it’s over
If you’ve been here for a while, then you know this: you can’t divest the topic of racism from the topic of capacity. They go hand in hand. It’s BEEN part of the capacity conversation, always. The ability (or inability) to dismantle systemic racism IS a capacity issue. The ability to have the hard conversations,…
phew.
Maybe it’s Venus retrograde. Maybe it’s the moon in Gemini. Maybe it’s month three in self isolation. But this weekend I went on a wild ride with my emotions and I found some surprising desires within that I had not been fully conscious of. Or rather, the desires were always there, but I wasn’t allowing…
the tyranny of “perfect”
I recently wrote this line in an email to one of my mentors “Being blind to my sh&t is just about the most terrifying thing I can think of. NO THANK YOU.” After I wrote this, it got me thinking about blindspots, and how terrifying it can feel to also FACE them. After speaking with…
Playing possum
Ever heard of the phrase “playing possum”? It comes from the Virginia Opossum, who “plays dead” every time a potential predator is near. It looks like the picture above (that possum is fully alive). A few years ago I was talking to a client on the phone about her self-sabotaging patterns that came up every time…
Tinder drama
There’s this funny thing that happens on dating apps… I always notice that the people who put “no drama” or a “drama-free” person in their profiles are the people who are the BIGGEST drama queens/kings. Ever notice that? When I was in my twenties, I used to do the same thing. I’d talk up a…
small fires
Ever seen one of Queen Elizabeth’s “addressing the nation” speeches? She doesn’t usually give them (the last one she did was during World War II). But she did give one when the pandemic broke out, which was a really big deal. And watching it was watching a master in action. I was reading an analysis…
Pregnant or not
I walked into his office sure I was going to end up paralyzed or worse, dead. My first time visiting a chiropractor and all the doctors in my family who didn’t “believe” in chiropractic were texting me horror stories of adjustments gone wrong. But I had this soul-hunch I needed to be there. I had…