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From the blog…
airhead Barbie & world peace
Every once in a while you work with a client who has a growth trajectory so huge, it inspires you for years afterward. I’m lucky to have many clients like that, many of whom are still in touch with me today. But today I want to introduce you to a womxn who through expanding her visibility capacity, managed to get heads of state to sign petitions for entire countries to abolish nuclear weapons. Rebecca Irby was one of my first clients almost 10 years ago. When I met her, she was 30 years old, in Japan teaching English as...
*eyeroll* #overit
In love and capacity, Ps: make sure you listen to the end for a special invite to an exclusive FB live I’m doing tomorrow with a secret, amazing guest that I brought in just for you this month.
meet my “surprise kids”
I made a pretty big decision three weeks ago that I’ve kept pretty quiet. Until today. Meet my “surprise kids” Sadie (left) and Luna (right). There will be more stories on them and the incredible journey it took to get here in the future, but for now, I want to share one of the major lessons they’ve already taught me about expanding your capacity... When I decided to adopt these girls from the rescue, I told virtually no one about it for weeks. It felt like a private decision and a big shift, and I wanted to listen to my...
he lied
In graduate school years ago, I shared a house with a male classmate. What I loved about our relationship is that it was 100% platonic, so the boundaries were clear between us (you’ll know why I’m saying this in a moment). Which meant we could have some pretty deep conversations about relationships, sex, and connection in general, knowing there’d be no “unspoken expectations”. One night after I made us a housemate dinner, he opened up to me and said, “I keep wanting to attract a woman who is loyal, devoted, passionate, intelligent, & will stick with me through thick...
redirecting couch
A few years ago, I found myself sitting on my couch, lost in a long train of thought. It's a train of thought my brain has been habitually trained to go down, based on childhood physical/emotional abuse I experienced. This train of thought says, "yes, you're successful, all is great, you’ve achieved all these amazing things… but your friend just published a book and has all this publicity for it, she just got a speaking gig, she had a million dollar launch… why aren’t YOU doing that?" And from there, my brain would then go down this path: "you'll never...
guardians not walls
In our first conversation about boundaries, I showed you where you might be experiencing boundary capacity issues (even if you think your boundaries are locked in and solid). And then in our second video, we talked about all the hidden ways you avoid doing the work to expand your boundary capacity. Y’all LOVED this particular conversation -- the comments and engagement we got on this video were off-the-chain. Let’s dive DEEPER into boundary capacity today. Your BOUNDARY capacity is your ability to not only guard your time and energy, but to make specific, clear, and easily granted requests from the...
goodbye cardboard
Remember a few weeks ago when we talked about your structural capacity? We talked about where you might be experiencing structural capacity issues in the most unexpected places and then in our second video about structural capacity we talked about all the unexpected ways you avoid doing the work to expand your structural capacity. Today I’m back to talk with you about what your structural capacity looks and feels like when it’s fully expanded so that you can step into a whole new way of being in the world. Your STRUCTURAL capacity is your ability to have structures and...
inside out
You may remember a few weeks ago we talked about your emotional, physical, & spiritual capacity. It’s what I call your EMBODIMENT capacity. Your EMBODIMENT capacity is your ability to assuredly navigate new challenges that come at every level of your growth. When it’s out of alignment it shows up as being thrown off by every little drama or obstacle in your life and trying to solve big-deal issues with flimsy little bandaids. But here’s how it could be when seen through the prism of the four pillars of the capacity framework… (watch in today’s video, below) As...
start over?
A few weeks ago we talked about your purpose capacity. We talked about what a crisis of purpose looks like (even if you think you aren’t having one) and then in our second video we talked about all the unexpected ways you limit your purpose capacity. Today I’m back to talk with you about what your purpose capacity looks and feels like when it’s fully expanded so that you can step into a whole new way of being in the world. Your PURPOSE capacity is your ability to align your true purpose with your way of being in the...
actualized visibility
A few weeks ago we talked about visibility capacity. Today I’m back to talk with you about your visibility capacity and what it looks and feels like when it’s fully expanded. As we’ve already discussed: VISIBILITY capacity is your ability to let ALL of you be SEEN - professionally and personally. When it’s out of alignment it shows up as hiding integral parts of you that make you unique and have the potential to catapult you to the next level. This can also feel like you’re getting the wrong kind of attention and opportunities -- but when your visibility...