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From the blog…

bucking bronco

Six days into 2021, watching violent insurrectionists storming the US Capitol, we got a glimpse that this was not going to be a “going back to normal” kind of year. This year has already come in like a “bucking bronco” as one of my colleagues has said.  And while you may be relieved the US has a more peaceful president now...we can’t pin our hopes and dreams on one human like codependent children. We are responsible for our own lives. Not a president.  Truth is, we’re never going to go back to the “normal” we had in 2019. Our world,...

head, meet wall

About seven years ago, I quit going to all of the “Envision Your New Year” type workshops that I was bombarded with every January. I also quit ordering yearly planners. Why? Because I’d use that planner for a few weeks and months later I’d find it in a random drawer completely forgotten. There’s a reason why coaches who sell planners also bundle programs with them. Without the proper support, it’s easy to self-sabotage and achieve none of those goals. The “plan your successful year” workshops were the same. I’d write down big goals for revenue, better boundaries and epic relationships....

so…where is it?

For the last eleven years, I see the same thing every new year. I see you excitedly sharing you finally joined that book publishing mastermind that will get you to write and publish your bestseller. The business coaching program that promises to make you the next household name or your next six figures. The one day workshop that will ensure you get that big promotion. The funnel strategy that promises to give you your next “seven figure wild cash funnel.” And yet…where’s your book? Did you get that deal with Penguin Publishing and did you end up on the New...

it’s ON!

Ever heard about the time the meat industry sued Oprah? On her old TV show, she did an episode on mad cow disease and a couple of cattle ranchers in Texas claimed her show caused meat sales to plummet and sued her. She stood up for herself and was eventually acquitted.  About that time in her life she’s said, “So you’re on trial by day, and you’re doing the show by night. It was stressful. It was challenging. To be on trial, may I just say, is one of the worst experiences of anybody’s life.” When I first read that,...

money ghosting

Ever been “money ghosted”? Bet you have. You might have unknowingly money ghosted someone, or yourself, too... There’s no topic that causes more ghosting and avoidance in business and personal transactions than money.  Money is a triggering topic. The most horrendous comments I get from internet trolls are always on posts where I talk about money. I’ve had so many people who sign up to do Capacity Work™ say to me “you used to trigger me SO much when you talked about money, until I realized I was triggered because of my own money blocks.”  Money ghosting is a Money...

personal note <3

We’re getting into holiday time, and whichever tradition you celebrate, I want to wish you a happy, easeful and gentle time.  My end-of-the-year vacation started today and I moved into a brand new home a few weeks ago. I’ll be posting pics of my magical cottage on Instagram stories, so make sure if we aren’t friends there, that you give me a follow so you can see! I keep telling everyone my house feels the movie “The Holiday.” Can’t wait to show it to you. Don’t know about you, but I personally start reflecting on my year before New Year’s...

sh&t, meet fan.

When you have BIG goals, your relationships are EVERYTHING. It’s profoundly important to have people around you who you trust to call you out on your BS with love. BUT…in order for that trust to truly be there, you need to know those people actually mean you well and cheer you on as hard as they cheer for themselves.  Not knowing how to discern this is a capacity issue. And having the WRONG people around you calling you out can seriously hold you back.  One of the things I noticed as I started working on my capacity many years ago...

don’t do it

I have a bone to pick with the “personal development industry.” There’s this particular thing I see pushed constantly in PD programs and business/money coaching programs and it’s great when it works. But when it doesn’t, it’s downright harmful and causes long-lasting damage to your business or career. It can cause you to earn LESS money than before, in fact. It’s this: the idea that your business (or career) must ALWAYS be doubling, tripling or quadrupling in growth and earning every year. This is FALSE.  The follow up to this potentially insidious thoughtform is that in order for a program...

do you like me?

“I think I’m codependent in my business!” This was what a client exclaimed to me on our private call a few weeks ago. She first came to work with me because she’d been in the business coaching program of a pretty famous business coach, yet her business was still struggling to get clients and she couldn’t find the motivation to show up consistently. Was it the big, famous business coach’s fault? Nope. Her program was great, so this isn’t about throwing shade. But, my client’s problem wasn’t a strategy issue. She learned some great strategies from that big business coach’s...

unsettling realization

Becoming your next level self is not supposed to be easy… A few years ago I was doing the “future visioning” exercises I teach clients in the Capacity Shift™ program and I had an unsettling realization: I had a BIG vision for my life and my business--Oprah-level big. But when I looked at who I needed to be and what I needed to embody at that level of my success, there was a glaring misalignment.  You can’t have a ten gallon life if you currently only bring the capacity of a pint to the table. Abundance flows towards alignment and...