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From the blog…
this email disturbed me
Clients at one of my Capacity Retreats in Santa Barbara I got an email a few days ago that really floored me. A womxn who has been wanting to work with me for a LONG WHILE wrote in saying this: “I’ve been wanting to work with you for a long time, your message really resonates with me. But I'm not sure that I would be a good candidate to work with you, at least at this point. The reason I’m not sure I would be a good candidate is that I’m not making multiple six or 7 figures yet....
why ‘making a plan’ doesn’t work
(Me and clients on a mastermind retreat in France) Every day I hear dream-killing phrases like this: “My dream is to own a retreat home in Greece.” “I want to get to $2.7 million in revenue next year.” “My goal is to get that huge promotion and a 2x pay raise.” And then inevitably every single one of these statements is followed up by: “Yeah! Let’s make a plan to make that happen!” or “I need to hire a strategist who is going to show me how to get there, step-by-step.” You might be thinking “what is wrong with...
the money question you’re not asking yourself
Money Capacity is the one thing I talk about with all of my clients, whether they’re six-figure earners, or eight. Whether they’re rising stars or already established. I don’t care how far along you get in your career or business, you’re ALWAYS going to be expanding your money capacity. Always. I’m almost a decade into my current business, millions of dollars in revenue, and I STILL am constantly expanding my own money capacity. Still hitting edges where I need to grow. Still overcoming new fears that come at every level. Still leaning deeper into TRUSTING that the Universe WANTS...
cocaine, yoga and instagram superstars
Go online, to a networking event, or join a mastermind and you’ll notice this: everyone says they want to make seven figures and beyond. Impact the world. Speak at the UN. Become the thought leader darling of their industry. Get on Oprah. Or the New York Times Bestseller List. Have a Fortune 500 company. But here’s the truth: few cultivate the CAPACITY to receive, show up for, and handle their seven-figure/UN speaker/Oprah-Superstar-version self. That’s when you see someone hit their big goal, but shortly after they’re getting divorced, their life is falling apart, anxiety has hit an all-time high, or...
this is why you’re drained.
A few years ago, I was on the phone with my friend Dyana, talking about an old flame I’d recently reconnected with. We’d always liked each other, but somehow things between us had never materialized, due to timing and a variety of other factors. Then, out of the blue, 10 years later, he reached out. We exchanged a few emails and texts, had a few deep phone conversations. He left flirtatious comments on my social media accounts. All signs pointing to interest… right? Except the last few times we’d texted it had taken him a few days to respond. My...
You don’t always have to be good at everything, you know: A love letter to my fellow high achievers.
The pain sizzled through my leg and up to my spine and neck. Bright, red rivulets of blood were sprouting from my knee and the whole first layer of my skin was gone. I squinted my face tight to resist the next wave of pain about to hit as my nerves sent the signal of this gruesome sight to my brain. My mother walked over to me and said, “Honey are you okay? Are you hurt?” She could tell I was in a lot of pain and wanted to comfort me. She’s told me this story a few times...
blowing up your socks
The other day I watched a video of a soccer player that blew my socks off! As the owner of a highly successful business approaching 10 years in existence, I felt every piece of that womxn’s journey trying to get that ball into the net! And that level of relentlessness is the exact level of relentlessness that I’m sure you can identify within yourself as the legacy maker that you are. After all, you wouldn’t have achieved all you have already WITHOUT that level of determination. When you have a strong mission and a large impact to make, THAT is...
the secret I learned about Oprah
If one more person tells me to go do self-care for two hours with champagne, bubbles, and chocolate in a tub I’m going to tell them to shut up. I was on the phone with a client and she was venting. She was recently the newly-minted CEO of a very successful, multi-million dollar family-owned business, and in her words, this powerful badass felt like “life wasn’t working anymore”. She was showing early signs of adrenal fatigue, couldn’t imagine adding another single thing to her plate, her marriage was showing strain, and she was having serious issues dealing with the team...
let’s talk about the “P word”
It’s been almost 10 years since I started my current business and I’ve worked with thousands of womxn at this point. I have given them all a variety of homework assignments after coaching calls with them to help them expand their capacity so they can step into a whole new way of being in the world. But there is one exercise that has stumped ALL of them. It’s so hard for them to do that they’d probably solve the world’s hardest math equation more easily than they could do this assignment. Want to know what it is? 2 weeks of...
I feel ashamed…
Something I did recently walloped me. And I felt shame and remorse for weeks afterward. It impacted me so profoundly that it sent me down a deep rabbit hole about the state of our online communities and the relationship between online creators and the people they create for. And that is what I want to talk to you about today. It’s time we had a heart to heart about this. Why? Because we are the ones creating our worlds and shaping our collective future, especially in the online spaces and communities we belong to. And the question I want...