NEWSLETTERS

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are you regressing?

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Is it just me or have you seen some really strange and “out of left field” behavior coming out of people lately?  Scratch that. I know it’s not me. It’s something I keep hearing from everyone.  I’ve also seen some people who I thought were pretty stable and solid-at-the-core get REALLY thrown off their balance…

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my relationship status

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A few years ago, I had an uncomfortable experience at a retreat I was leading. It was the end of a breakthrough day and my team had champagne & desserts set out for participants as we all socialized.  I was sitting on a couch chatting with several women when one of them abruptly and oddly…

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major money dilemma

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A few weeks ago in the Capacity Shift™ group call we had a pretty amazing discussion about capitalism and how to build wealth/charge more when we don’t agree with a system that cares about profits over humans. It was a wonderful question brought up by a participant. In the space of fifteen minutes we got…

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when self-care is sabotage

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A few years ago, I accomplished a years-long dream: I booked five days at a luxurious suite in Santorini, Greece. I had the whole image in my head for YEARS. I wanted one of those suites I always saw on Instagram with the private hot tubs overlooking the caldera of the volcano. So, I booked…

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mindset work doesn’t work

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Whenever I talk about Capacity something interesting happens. Inevitably, I get a bunch of comments from people that say ““yes! I’m working on my mindset!” or they’ll say they’re working on their capacity when what they’re actually doing is just signing up for another “mindset hacks” course.  People often think when I talk about capacity…

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it’s a waste of time

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What “life lessons” have you learned in the past ten years?  For me there are a few that stick out (and that consequently I teach in Capacity Work™). But there was one life lesson I kept thinking about all week which I’ve personally learned the hard way: Don’t fight harder for someone than they want…

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the nasty voice

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On Monday, I woke up to screaming. It was me, screaming at myself in my head, “My life is just beginning to get really good, this is only the beginning! I create my reality!” It was the voice of my higher self (I call her my sovereign self) yelling at the voice of my tricky…

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it’s over

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If you’ve been here for a while, then you know this: you can’t divest the topic of racism from the topic of capacity. They go hand in hand. It’s BEEN part of the capacity conversation, always.  The ability (or inability) to dismantle systemic racism IS a capacity issue. The ability to have the hard conversations,…

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phew.

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Maybe it’s Venus retrograde. Maybe it’s the moon in Gemini. Maybe it’s month three in self isolation. But this weekend I went on a wild ride with my emotions and I found some surprising desires within that I had not been fully conscious of.  Or rather, the desires were always there, but I wasn’t allowing…

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the tyranny of “perfect”

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I recently wrote this line in an email to one of my mentors “Being blind to my sh&t is just about the most terrifying thing I can think of. NO THANK YOU.” After I wrote this, it got me thinking about blindspots, and how terrifying it can feel to also FACE them. After speaking with…

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