NEWSLETTERS
power drain
On Sunday, I fired a service provider I’d worked with for almost two years. I liked them as a human being and I greatly enjoyed my work with them. But there was a sneaky thing that kept happening that ultimately made the relationship untenable. It’s also the culprit of one of the biggest complaints I…
bad idea
A personal trainer once told me that for Olympic sprinters, a 30 second sprint requires a prior 90 second rest. For an intense burst of activity, your muscles need three times the amount of rest, so they have the energy reserves to break records. That tidbit of information completely changed the way I viewed achieving…
debate trauma
I didn’t watch the US presidential debates a few weeks ago. On purpose. And if you’ve been trying to preserve your mental health during a pandemic and/or you’re recovering your nervous system from trauma, burnout or exhaustion…it’s okay if you didn’t watch, too. This isn’t about politics. It’s also not about bypassing what’s happening. Nor…
super defensive
A few weeks ago, someone I implicitly trust shared something with me that hurt my feelings. They shared a particular behavior I do when I’m feeling unsure about something is “off-putting”. I’m a Cancer, astrologically speaking, and one of my favorite memes about Cancers is this one: I laugh hysterically whenever I see this meme…
your resistance is wisdom
For the last few weeks we’ve been exploring one of the top questions I get from so many of you “why am I stuck in this one area, even after I’ve tried everything?”. I laid out the first two parts of my unique answer to that question in Part 1 and Part 2 already. Today…
why you’re still stuck
Every year I speak with so many people who feel stuck and like nothing is working to make progress in their goals. I hear you and I get it. In the past I’ve also been in that place many times. I’ve helped so many people through it. It’s why Capacity Work™ exists. But what do…
whoa
As I write this to you it’s a few weeks after leading the “Capacity in Crisis” workshop. It’s been kind of a whirlwind lately (with some really awesome news on the professional front I can’t QUITE share with you yet, but soon I will!). So I’m a little late in getting this note of gratitude…
not interested
I was recently talking to a client who wanted to raise her prices. She knew the mechanics and strategy of doing so. She knew she wanted to raise her 1:1 coaching price to $24,000. But she kept holding back. Why? Because she needed to expand her Money Capacity–her ability to hold, handle and receive that…
she didn’t like me
I was at a gathering recently (outside, wearing masks, very physically distanced and just five people) and I mentioned I probably wasn’t going to fly on any planes until next year and even then it would have to be on a private plane, with everyone onboard tested for COVID. One woman who I get along…
twins at forty-nine?
One of the most shocking things I discovered when I decided to live the life I wanted to live (this started in my 20’s) was HOW MUCH resistance you can face not just from family members and friends but society as a whole. I wasn’t prepared for just how lonely it could feel and how…