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I can’t with this.
I’ve been seeing a lot of people “battle it out” on social media in the last week about “what we should be doing during this time.” On one side of the arena are the people saying tone-deaf and privilege-unaware things like “if you don’t come out of this pandemic with a new skill or having improved yourself, you’re just lazy.” On the other side of the arena are people saying “we’re experiencing trauma right now. Of course you’re tired, of course you don’t want to do anything, you’re in basic survival mode. Rest, rest some more. Don’t do anything.” I...
Stop it.
A few weeks ago a friend asked me “how have you stayed so centered? Aren’t you worried about the ‘unknowns’ coming in the next few months?” (Don’t worry, this email isn’t going to turn into a self-congratulatory vanity show. Keep reading because this email is about YOU.) My friend is successful, but she’s taken a few hits to her business in the last few weeks. There was an in-person event she had to reschedule and lost money on. Then she had some people drop out of her signature program, which made her revenue dip a bit more than she’d planned. ...
read if you’re panicked or worried
If you’re starting to feel the world’s panic and fear slowly inject itself into your peace, I want to tell you a story today, because it’ll lift a big weight off your chest and bring you back to a sense of security. When I was 8 years old, a scary incident in an elevator changed me forever. I was on the way to a swim lesson with my sister and our caretaker Milly. (My mother worked full time as a teacher during summer school sessions, so she needed the extra help at home!) As we stepped into the elevator...
evade and avoid
Every year, hundreds of people book sessions with me to explore working together. At the end of those calls, we always talk about money/what they want to invest in Capacity Work™. After ten years of these calls, I’ve learned A LOT about sneaky ways we sabotage and even reject money. Observing the way a person reacts to the money part of that exploratory conversation often shows me why they’re experiencing money plateaus in the first place. It also tells me how and when they’ll plateau financially if it hasn’t happened already. Wanna know what I’ve learned? Here are SOME patterns...
turning down God
One of my clients during an in-person retreat One of my longtime mentors, Voge Smith, told me an amazing story the other day (it’s so good, she put it in her book). An old Zen story of a man who’d spent his entire life searching for God. On his long and arduous search spanning many years, he finally meets someone who tells him “I can take you to where God lives.” This leads him to a house with a long set of stairs and the stranger tells him, “God’s up there in a room at the end of the...
might piss you off, might change your life
I had a client fretting this week because she raised her prices and she got a “no” from someone she quoted the new price to. She was going into self-doubt about raising her price and questioning herself. She’d felt her client’s money fear and it got to her. Now -- I think this IS a valid question. COULD your price be too high? Yes, sometimes. Sure. BUT - in the last 10 years of working with people, I’ve seen women say no to a $1,000 investment because they “had already invested in another coaching program” and then go buy...
cramped hand & a crushed soul
Me and clients in front of a waterfall at one of my retreats. I’ll never forget the message I got from her. It said, “Money manifesting is a SCAM.” A few weeks ago, she’d come across a VERY well known manifestation teacher. Millions of followers. Thousands raving about all they manifested with her secret manifesting formula (that you could download for $11). She bought it. Then she wrote her intention down 100 times BY HAND every day for the next seven days (just as the “foolproof” manifestation formula told her to do). By the end of those seven days,...
want a $22,000 check?
This morning I woke up to this comment in the forum from one of the Capacity Shift™ program participants who is currently working on expanding her Money Capacity: Mind you, she upped her price from $12,000 straight to $22,000 just a few weeks ago BECAUSE she said the Money Capacity work made her feel confident enough to quote that price without blinking an eye! It never gets old seeing messages like this! I jump for joy every time. Here’s a few ways to work with me on your Capacity and get results for yourself like the one my client got...
daddy issues, money issues
Picture of a client at one of my mastermind retreats in Santa Barbara Several years ago, I was scrolling through Facebook when yet another ad from some ‘guru’ offering to ‘triple my revenue’ popped up. I rolled my eyes, clicked ‘hide ad’ and moved on. I’d spent two years stuck at a revenue plateau in my business. I’d hired at least 5-6 different coaches and experts, read at least three books and been tempted by at least fifty ads that promised the solution. These ads created such a longing inside of me that always turned into pain and frustration. I...
LBD or acid-washed jeans?
A few months ago I found myself in the middle of a verrry interesting conversation with a fellow business owner at an event we were both attending. She was BLOWN AWAY I still send emails to my community and write blog posts on a consistent basis. Her exact words, said with a condescending laugh, were: “WOOW. You still blog and email? Ha! Isn’t blogging and email DEAD?” Then she couldn’t believe I still liked working with people 1:1. “Isn’t that kind of 2009? Isn’t the whole point to scale massively? Ugh, I hate working with people 1:1, I’d be so...