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fear tango
A hand written note to Lisa from a client. A few weeks ago I was outside in my robe and slippers taking my dogs for their morning walk. The morning mist was coming over the mountains and the smell of ocean salt was in the air. When I’m in Santa Barbara, the place where I live is pretty remote. So, my mailbox isn’t right in front of my house. I have to walk down the mountain to the bottom of the road to pick up my mail, so I tend to not check it often. This morning, I made a...
you, yourself and you
A participant at my yearly Mary Magdalene retreat in France. A few years ago, I got to be a witness to one of the worst program launches in history. My poor friend had poured months of work into this new program and opening day was here! But EVERYTHING went wrong. She had THREE THOUSAND people signed up for her webinars where she would sell her new program. But on the day of the webinar, the software had an unforeseeable glitch. This was not her fault at all. It was an uncontrollable tech meltdown. But thousands of people couldn’t get...
secret language
Me with my first crush… who ALSO didn’t like me back! Back in my teens and early twenties I had a pattern of falling in infatuation with “unrequited love” kind of people. First, it was the guy who talked to me for hours and poured his heart out to me on the phone once a week… but was dating someone else. Then there was the scientific genius who had no emotional intelligence. Two years after our short-lived “dating” stint where he unceremoniously dumped me after flirting with a woman in front of me all night at a party, he...
boundary trifecta
Photo of me with attendees at a speaking engagement. I have an important question for you to ask yourself and journal on today. Ready for it? How often have you found yourself investing in other things that you think are more urgent or important right now than your boundaries? Truly. Get really honest with yourself. Think about it. Your answer to this question could actually solve the “mystery frustration” you’ve been feeling in your career or business. Whether it be that you don’t feel visible enough, you’re overwhelmed, you’re not making as much money as you think you should...
the Oprah effect
Photo of me with attendees at a speaking engagement. Have you ever heard of the “Oprah effect?” It’s what happens when you’re a small company and Oprah or some other big-name person/company mentions you and suddenly you blow up and everyone wants to order your product or pay for your services. One of the most compelling stories I heard about this was from a woman who had a brand new t-shirt company. She had only printed a few t-shirts with a hand press and sent a few to Ellen’s team on a whim. Then Ellen mentioned her t-shirts on the...
pretzel
Teaching clients about capacity in a recent in-home retreat. “I just spent two weeks in bed.” Her voice was trembling as she fought back tears. My client had just led her first live event with eighty people attending, it had been her largest group to date. And now she couldn’t move. Worst of all, this was the third time she’d been THIS sick in only three months. In between sobs, blowing her nose into tissues, she blurted out to me, “What’s wrong with me? Do I just not have what it takes to go to my next level or...
boundary boomerang
Some clients at a fabulous cactus garden during a recent retreat I hosted. Last year, I lost a friend to what I like to call a “boundary boomerang.” When I first met her, I noticed her boundaries first. She used to email me and message me on Facebook, but the one time I replied to her on Facebook instead of email, she set a HARD boundary on only wanting to be contacted via one method of communication. I was a bit confused. You see, SHE had written ME on Facebook first. It wasn’t like I emailed her there first,...
Mary Reynolds
Mary Reynolds enjoying one of her landscape designs at the Chelsea Flower Show. Credit: Press Association Images. Ever think watching a movie about a landscape designer would help you have a huge breakthrough around your boundaries? Well, that movie exists and I’ve got to tell you about “Dare To Be Wild,” which I found on Netflix a few weeks ago. It has POTENT lessons on one of the BIGGEST capacities women struggle with, no matter where they are in their careers and lives: BOUNDARY CAPACITY™. It’s a TRUE story about the life of a woman named Mary Reynolds. Mary...
egg-freezing boundary pusher
Me and clients at a mastermind retreat in my home. Have I ever told you about the time a random friend of my mom’s took me aside at a holiday party and ended up becoming one of my craziest boundary stories? Though I had no real relationship with her, she decided it was perfectly fine to drunkenly lecture me (without my consent) about how my “uterus would shrivel up” and I’d become just like her friend who is a “bitter businesswoman who lives in remorse over not having kids.” O.M.G. right? I call her the “egg-freezing boundary-pusher” when I laughingly...
the most revealing 22 minutes on video EVER
Scroll down to watch the video. You’re going to want to read today’s email settled in your chair with a good cup of tea or coffee. It’s my most revealing 20 minutes on video ever. And I’m taking you deep into some of the drama that’s been going on behind the scenes as I’ve expanded my own capacity in the last two years. Now, this is an in-depth post, so I made it two ways for you. Pick the easiest way for you to absorb this powerful story: You can watch the post as a 22-minute video below. Or...